After so many years of teaching men stories that explain our psychology, the one at the core of it all - The Count of Monte Cristo - still continues to inspire new ideas. What a surprise to hear that perhaps the greatest mentor to men in history - Abbe Faria - from the same work, was based on a real figure from psychology before it became psychology.

Tension is not always a bad thing. At least when you recognize that it is the same as arousal, and arousal is a neutral thing simply meaning that you have someone's attention.

On one end of the spectrum, allowing it to build too high becomes anxiety-ridden and uncomfortable, and letting it be too loose - too slow - causes it to fall flat and not be very interesting.

The perfect complement to a gift for creating tension with a woman, is the gift of humor - and the knowledge that there are exactly four main types of it.