The American holiday, Thanksgiving, has just passed - a time for doing just as it sounds: expressing thanks for what you have in your life, and your relationships. Whether or not you celebrate this holiday, my guess would be that at some time in the past few months you wondered about an aspect of being with a woman for which there is very little advice, instruction or solid, step-by-step actions to take:

What does a woman's capacity to celebrate, and to have gratitude (for YOU) mean about her, and mean about you?

When I went to see Woody Allen's film, Midnight in Paris, I was told it's a "romantic comedy" about a bad relationship, and expected all kinds of lessons about attraction, dating and marriage. I didn't at all expect that it was going to be an equally thought provoking guide to career choices coming from our inexplicable experiences with the unexpected. That it would treat the two prime concerns of men in the form of women and work in equal balance, or how it is that the hour of midnight has a role in a man's life, were the biggest surprises of all.

If there's anything that's true about recent films, it's that they are coming closer and closer to explaining the real instincts that are so different between men and women. Maybe it's only those by the director of Wedding Crashers and the writers of The Hangover. Either way, the just-released movie, The Change-up sends a single man and married man into the other's role, with disastrous, but truly enlightening consequences no matter which you are in your own life.