Tension is not always a bad thing. At least when you recognize that it is the same as arousal, and arousal is a neutral thing simply meaning that you have someone's attention.

On one end of the spectrum, allowing it to build too high becomes anxiety-ridden and uncomfortable, and letting it be too loose - too slow - causes it to fall flat and not be very interesting.

The perfect complement to a gift for creating tension with a woman, is the gift of humor - and the knowledge that there are exactly four main types of it.

After so many years of teaching men stories that explain our psychology, the one at the core of it all - The Count of Monte Cristo - still continues to inspire new ideas. What a surprise to hear that perhaps the greatest mentor to men in history - Abbe Faria - from the same work, was based on a real figure from psychology before it became psychology.