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Crucial Phrases for Men - With Women and Work
I have a very odd friend. He texts people to ask if they would like to meet up to do some social events, and he writes to them such things as, "I'd be delighted if you could join me at..." The same evening or at the latest, the next morning, he tells them "what a great pleasure it was to meet up." Wait. Maybe the fact that he does this is not "typical," but perhaps it's what "normal" really is, or should be. At the very least, it is a habit of courtesy, and at its best, it's very POWERFUL.
One of the things that's common to all of our efforts at Men's Psychology is that we don't just deal with the "basic skills" of one's social or career lives - the basics of "being a man" - but we also deal with the nature of psychology being an "invisible" thing about life. It's about those areas of the mind and behavior that if you weren't looking for them, you would entirely miss, and be out of touch with a whole lot of power in your life.
There's a special, stand-alone program we have reserved for our special members and VIPs behind the scenes. It's a program I made some time ago when I finally started wondering what this thing called "motivation" REALLY is. I had seen all manner of "motivational speaker" and "personal growth gurus" who were always talking about "motivation." Well, I had had enough. I wanted to know what the intimate anatomy was of this thing we all need, all thirst for, and all progress when we finally discover it (usually randomly.)
It's the REAL scientific basis for "motivation" and I've decided to give it to you on a very time-limited basis this week. You'll be able to watch the whole hour, entirely for FREE, for a month, when you sign up this week for the information on the program that gives you access to it and so much more...
When you use a "power phrase," it's not good enough to just say the words (although they'll be a start.) You need the "inner mechanics" of motivation to all be in place first. And when you have that nailed, just about anything you say will start to take shape in a way that gets others energized, interested in you and what you have to say, and start to feel a sense of "bonding" with you, even if they just met you moments ago. (So I hope you took advantage of the free video above, while it lasts...)
This idea that there are "power phrases" that are unique to men (and people in general) - those little things that you can say and do which amplify the perception of your masculinity, happiness, friendship ability, character maturity, and value as a man to align with - phrases that really would accumulate a lot of change and power for your life if only you would use them regularly.
"Motivation" is not just a "technique." It's POWER. And when we learn the definition of power in physics, we find that it is "the amount of work that can be done in a unit of time."
In other words, when you are not only motivated and motivating, but have the right words to say, you get more value in life, more social connections, more friends, more success, more results in your goals, and in all the areas of life that "you need to work at," well, you get them done in record time, for you.
I'm going to use my friend as an example of someone to imitate (and encourage you to make up your own) - so that you don't miss out on these opportunities again...
Hellos and Goodbyes
For starters, every man ought to make a concerted effort to learn the diplomatic skills of hellos and goodbyes that are going to be most effective for him. This can start with the following ones used by my friend:
GREETING by text or in person: "I'd be delighted if you could join me at..."
GOODBYE: "This has been fantastic. Thank you for joining me..."
Most guys often say something like, "What's up?" and "See you later." Men of few words, but even those are neutral words that are neither welcoming, nor honoring of the other - neither inspired or inspirational.
Rather, they are protective of your ego, your masculinity and status, but in the eyes of others, both men and women, they fall flat.
The friend I am talking about may come across to many as "weak" or overly "try-hard," when in fact, he's very, very SHREWD. I've seen him make more genuine friends in a night than most guys make in a month, and the women he meets span a whole spectrum from "friend" to "potential lover."
Favors and Thank You's
Here is another big category for your massive general use.
Why do we even bother to socialize?
In a nutshell, whether it's making new friends or finding romance, or working on a project at the company that employs us, our goals are either to GET SOMETHING, or else to take what we already possess and grow it into EVEN MORE VALUE for us.
So think about what most guys utter when they in fact need something from other people:
"My job sucks."
"How am I doing? Been better. Need to make more money."
"I'm in a dry spell."
"Hey, would you like to get together some time?"
Or how about when most guys get something they've really needed or wanted?
"Cool. I made it!"
"That was great, thanks."
"Oh, it was no problem."
It's all very self-protective, and understandably, naturally masculine to be a rugged individualist who credits himself with everything he gets. But if that's the case, there isn't much room for others.
My friend takes a different route in his language about favors and thank yous. When he has a favor to ask, he knows the RIGHT person to go to with it, asks for the favor, EXPLICITLY and in DETAIL, and when it is delivered, he THANKS the person IMMEDIATELY, SPECIFICALLY, and IN DETAIL.
"I need someone to help me move, and after thinking about it, you're definitely the one. Is there a good day this week you could help?"
"I have a new business idea and I need you to consider it. It's perfect for you, but here's why I need you specifically - you've got the competence and spirit for it, and I think you might share my vision. I've wanted to do this for a long time and I'd really appreciate your involvement. If you want to learn more, let's meet friday at noon for lunch."
"You're pretty, but you mentioned that band before. I have tickets this saturday and for both reasons above, I'd be excited if you'd join me."
When they DO inevitably get motivated to help him, team with him, or date him, he immediately thanks them from the heart:
"I knew you could do it. Couldn't have done it without you, and listen, the next time, or ANY time you need to move, I will be there to help."
"I just knew you would see the vision too. Thank you. There's lots of room here for your mission and goals too, so don't let me be rude - tell me where you would want to see such a company expand into and we'll find a way..."
"That was a magical night for me. Thank you. Needless to say, if we both want to see each other again we absolutely will. I certainly do. Good night."
Back Up the Words With the Motivational Machinery
Words are just that - words, data. They don't mean anything unless they convey the right emotion to the right person in the right way at the right time.
And those of you who are already downloading the motivation Program for FREE will immediately recognize the necessary factor called Observing Ego in it - the ability to say the right thing in the right way at the right time to the right person - to get the results you need and want.
My friend has mastered this to the point of it being natural and automatic for him, and so can YOU.
It starts with the right set of ingredients that you are going to learn in the FREE Masculine Intelligence in Men's Motivation Program given to you for a limited time this week, here: