Curiosity Is The Ultimate Screening Device For Women

If there were one single trait to look for in a woman you can go the distance with, it would be "curiosity."
It may have never occurred to you that there’s an extremely quick and easy trait of character that can be used as the ultimate screen for judging whether you ought to spend time, energy, or any resource on a woman.
In fact, many guys ask me if I’m an expert in just dating or just exclusivity or marriage, and the answer is that much of what I teach is useful for the MAN’S ENTIRE LIFESPAN WITH WOMEN. Are you 20 years old? Definitely have you covered. Are you 80 years old? Definitely have you covered. And everyone in between.
This is one of those items – a SINGULAR screen that tells you, at ANY point in your life, at ANY level of intimacy, whether a woman is an amazing presence to have in your life, or potentially, and unfortunately, a waste of time.
It’s her level of CURIOSITY.
That’s right. That simple.

A Woman With Curiosity Always Has "Potential"

I want to take this out of the realm of high science (where we might talk about narcissistic traits as the benchmark for bad relationships and wasted time), and down to earth.
At least at first.
Think about it. If you are only interested in a fun, sexual chemistry with a woman, it’s a bad thing to be with a person who is not curious about you, about sex, about herself, or about life.  It would be a boring interaction, dispassionate, objectified instead of meaningful, and maybe even clumsy and stilted.
If you were looking just to befriend her, you would still likely be spending more time, energy, and other resources on her than you get back in the relationship… if she is not a curious person.
If you were considering being exclusive, having her as a girlfriend or wife, or perhaps are already in that status, it’s a big, big problem if she is not a curious person.
Why?
There are several reasons, and they all peg to some specific working parts of the psyche, her femininity, and her character. In fact, these things will reveal to you a fair degree of what is likely to happen between you in both the near future and the long term future.
What would it be like to be able to predict the future with a woman in just about any scenario?  From other guys incurring on your social territory, trying to game her, to what would happen if she had to choose between you and her friends, it all begins with the skill of assessing a woman’s ability and capacity at having CURIOSITY.
In fact, if you DON’T learn this skill, you are likely to spend 99 percent of your money on dates with women in which you later regret that you could have spent it on your career, might end up losing years being with a girlfriend, when you could have been spending those same years dating your way to a woman you’d rather be with than the whole catalog of Playboy models, and possibly even end up married then divorced, and spending between a fifth and half the income you make for the next two decades on someone you NEVER would have voluntarily agreed to had you learned this NOW.
Don’t forget that in Chicago we can discuss this in person, and learn how you can benefit directly from this special assessment tool with women. To see me personally, go HERE:
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Choosing, or "Qualifying" Women

So why is CURIOSITY in a woman so important, and what does it (or its absence) reveal?
It is very likely that there will be many times in your life that you’ll let something about a woman get the better of you. She will be amazingly good-looking – maybe even the hottest woman you’ve dated.  You’ll let that overshadow so much else about her, and your potential together, and boy will you regret it later.  Maybe you already have.
Alternatively, it is nearly as likely that you will encounter a woman whose presence you like, or personality, or “how together she is” in career, or how connected she is, or how great her family is – then you’ll let that ONE THING overshadow the rest of your assessment of how good a fit she is to you and your life.
We all do this as men – a kind of tunnel vision about a goal we have, an experience or trait of a person we like – and this tendency to not see the forest for the trees can be our undoing.
In the first example, the most powerful force in behavior – your passions (desire) takes the steering wheel of your life and makes the decisions (or absence of them) FOR you. I cover this force extensively in the Mature Masculine Power Program.
In the second example, the second most powerful force in behavior – your emotions (love, friendship, value) take the steering wheel of your life and run the show.  I cover this force in depth in the KWML Mastery Progam.
Notice there’s no force related to THINKING, or WISDOM, or MATURITY, or anything about your assessment that can benefit you in a measured, logical, quantifiable way here.  That would be the realm of having enough of the skill called Observing Ego – which I teach you about in the MindOS Mastery Program.
Without this skill, you can’t see the forest for the trees (or do the right thing in the presence of passionate desires and happy emotions.) You feel good, or even on top of the world in the short run, and live to regret your lack of knowledge, foresight, logic, and wisdom in the long run.

What Will Go Wrong If She Lacks "The Trait"
I hope to give you enough pain about this up front so that it will matter when the moment of insight and decision comes.
BAD, BAD, BAD
With a woman who does not have a natural curiosity, you are likely to see her:
1.) Not learn much about what makes you tick, what makes you passionate about your career mission, or what you need to feel happy, self-determining, and growing
2.) Not have curiosity about herself either, and so fail to grow and mature in parallel with you as you go through life.
3.) Due to 1 and 2, not be a very good lover for you sexually, or see that fade fast.
4.) Because of the lack of insight, fail to be a teammate with you toward goals you can’t live without
5.) Therefore diminishing your resources over time, both for your career goals, and in your “game” (or ongoing ability to be attractive)
6.) Which LOWERS YOUR MASCULINITY ever increasingly over time.
7.) Which also causes her to lose interest and attraction for you, even as you feel less happy and less passionate for life, needing her more (or a woman in general) more than ever.
8.) Which causes either her to break up with you, leaving you with less masculinity and less resources than ever, OR causes you to cheat on her, also while in the midst of less masculinity and less resources than ever, and beating yourself up about that on top of it.
It’s all passion driven and happiness or sadness or fear driven.
All the while, your accuracy and wisdom could have led the way by assessing her for CURIOSITY.
Curiosity is the constructive, win/win version of a person using their “left-brained” ability at learning.  It is a mature intellectual trait, and something that carries perhaps the only power of the intellect over the sheer force of passion and emotion.  It is the opposite of the narcissistic, destructive, win/lose way of using your “left-brained” intellectual skills, which is called “prejudice” or “judgmentalism.”
You’ll tend to find that on the whole, a woman is intellectually either more of a CURIOUS person, or more of a JUDGMENTAL, PREJUDICED person.
All this painful prediction of the future, and practical tools of assessing a woman and the outcome with her might help you. They may help you overcome the power of these other behavioral forces.
In the end, that which is destructive, prejudiced, and selfish is going to carry poor boundaries with it, immaturity, a tendency to be selfish, and like the vampires of myth that I have written about before as symbolic of this scientific principle called NARCISSISM, will DRAIN YOU DRY.
GOOD, GOOD, GOOD

What The Benefits Of This Woman Are
When you find a woman who has the natural and cultivated character trait called CURIOSITY, here is what you can reliably predict for the future, whether you are talking only about casual dating, friendship, or exclusivity:
1.) She will really care and have investment in who you are, what you love, and why.
2.) She will have the curiosity to investigate how that fits into HER life, and how the two can join.
3.) She will invest in you, at least or more than the degree you invest in her (rather than it being a one-way deal that drains you dry.)
4.) This benefits your life, your career, not just in feeling loved, but in your career efforts actually being AMPLIFIED by the woman, even if she doesn’t directly participate in your career or serve you coffee. You just KNOW SHE GETS IT, and better – you know SHE BENEFITS from all you do, because it MATTERS to her, personally. (“Behind every successful man is a good woman.”)
5.) As a result, you feel more MASCULINE.
6.) This causes you to feel more passion for life, more attractive, and are in fact more attracted to her.
7.) Your sex life together gets BETTER, not worse.  You both feel more secure against cheating, and feel as if you are growing BECAUSE of each other.
8.) When disagreement and challenges arise, you both know you are a good team at handling that, collaborate out of curiosity, even when there is unhappiness or dispassion, and collaboration because again, you are both curious people – puzzle solvers who can still get pleasure out of the intellectual challenge of human behavior, in spite of having conflicting emotions and passionate arguments.
9.) Problems resolve, and you find yourselves even STRONGER, WISER, and more KNOWLEDGEABLE about each other and humans in general, simply because you are both curious people, and people who make a great team.
What a difference, yes?
It all started with screening for maturity.
As you may know, your temperament and personality has a great deal to do with how good a team you will make, and that in this arena, OPPOSITES ATTRACT. I detail this entirely in the KWML Mastery Course.
But if you were to bother to ask some questions early on in dating, using the WEEKEND MISSION I give you in this week’s newsletter at www.menspsychology.com, you might save years or a lifetime of mistakes.
One of those would be “What do you think of…?”
If you are met with no response, a vague, thoughtless response, “I’d ask my mom, or best friend,” or have no further, deep, rich discussion on it, then chances are you are not with a curious person.
Which by default, as we’ve covered, is likely also a judgmental or prejudiced person.
Just wait and see. It will matter.
No, better not wait and see.  Move on.
And if you want to discuss this with me further, I’ll be in the member FORUMS.
See you all at the Men's Depresculinity Seminar in Chicago.