"Dating Skills" Can't Touch Courtship Skills

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"Dating Skills" Can't Touch Courtship Skills

Anybody and everybody is a dating expert" these days, from a guy who's had "a few good dates" to the guy who looks like Fabio...
There is something major coming your way within a month – something I am going to flat out give to you with my compliments - but I have to get you ready for it. Let’s have some background.
You may have noticed there is more and more men’s material on dating out there all the time, and the reason for it is that western culture has ignored and failed to support and educate men on romance (in man language) for decades.
However, it is nearly ALL about the simple concept of “how to attract women.”
Which is incredibly simple to learn, and really could be summed up in only one word supported by real science (as opposed to some playboy guy’s mere personal opinion): mysteriousness.

All You Need Is Mysteriousness
Women’s number one attractor is a man who has an air of mystery about him.
To attract women, just do that. It’s the very first step and first PAGE of the Omega Male Program for men.
Easy.
Yet a whole industry has grown up around making this one simple word utterly complicated, mutually conflicting advice, silly terminology that sounds like playing Dungeons and Dragons, and basically charging you hundreds or thousands of dollars just to basically learn how to be mysterious to women.
It used to be called the “men’s community” or the “men’s dating community,” and the original idea was that since mainstream media doesn’t really speak to men or honor them, thousands, and then millions of men got together online to help each other, support each other, and even coach each other – FOR FREE – at how to understand what it is that attracts women.
Well, it’s mysteriousness.
And all the techniques you would ever learn about from those who sell it amounts to being mysterious.
“Peacocking,” “higher value,” “social proof” and dozens of other buzzwords are simply ways of being mysterious to women.  In fact, they ONLY work when they are done in a mysterious way.

There's a Real Science to "Getting Real"
Recently, and ironically, some marketers out there have been selling “how to be natural” or “authentic,” as a way to sound different. Ironically, because the essence of just going to ordinary mainstream therapy from a man or a woman therapist amounts to learning how to be yourself, and comfortable doing so.
It’s ridiculous really for that to be sold.
Be yourself, and be mysterious, and voila, you are attractive.
FOR THE MOMENT.
What’s HARD to learn and comes from COMPLEX science, is the art of learning human COURTSHIP behavior.
This means that you don’t merely attract a few women for a weekend, or feel good about yourself for a week after a “men’s bootcamp” because you got some numbers or a few smiles, but that you instead understand your own psychology deeply, romantic dynamics thoroughly, and what may determine the course of the rest of your life itself – you know that you know what women, of what types, and what maturity level, and what life’s experience, and background, and intelligence, and personality, and lifestyle are RIGHT FOR YOU, and you more than any other man.
THAT’S COURTSHIP.
 
Attraction Versus Courtship
Attraction is merely what two opposite-gender gorillas can feel for each other for an hour give or take.
And you are more than a Gorilla.
It also takes more than a Gorilla to comprehensively teach that.
Keeping in mind that you will be getting an entirely free opportunity around the end of the month, know until then that ALL you have to do to spark attraction is to be a mysterious man.
This doesn’t mean that you may not feel nervous, or that it will lead to a date or a number – it certainly won’t lead to a girlfriend or wife in and of itself.  But it WILL attract women to you for seconds, minutes or hours EACH AND EVERY TIME.
I’ll bet if you’ve ever purchased any other material on dating other than those at menspsychology.com, that you found there were some nice tips that DID attract women for a brief time in it.
But then a few hours passed and she didn’t seem as interested.
A few days passed, and she wasn’t returning calls.
A few months passed and your girlfriend didn’t seem to be that dream girl anymore.
Or a few years passed, and you found yourself on the way to divorce with a woman you disliked, and who perhaps, might even have DESPISED you.
THAT is NOT good for you, not what I want for you, and not what YOU want for you.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s already in the Omega Male Program.  

Attraction Is Fickle, But Courtship Is Durable
I am in the middle of training men in London at the moment – helping them with attraction yes, but that’s the first ten minutes of instruction.  What comes for the next several DAYS is everything else there is to learn on human COURTSHIP, which is worlds different from mere attraction or overcoming of “approach anxiety.”
Until we talk again, consider some scientific differences between the two:

  • Attraction lasts for seconds to hours.
  • Courtship guarantees attraction, love, and commitment for a lifetime (or a rich dating life full of QUALITY women who are WELL-SUITED to you.)
  • Attraction is primitive, animal behavior that is both powerful, but fleeting. It can be cut off at any moment, for random reasons, changes in the environment, the woman, you, or the relationship.
  • Courtship skill is advanced and mature, respects and enjoys the primitive, but channels it to good ends in your relationship, your friendships, and even your CAREER benefits from it. It integrates with your life.

It’s a technology tied to maturity and character, as described in the MindOS Mastery Course.
Attraction is NOT unique to a specific man or woman. At the primitive level, any “hot” woman will do, and any “charming” man will do.  But as all long-term committed or married people know, the other person may not be very hot or charming for long.
Courtship is EXQUISITELY SPECIFIC to a specific man and specific woman, unique to them and only them, and can never be duplicated, matched or superseded by the actions of another man, or allure of another woman.

 

Porn, and "Sugar-Daddies"

The worst scenario for men over this is the interchangeable nature of the women of porn, and that for women is the interchangeable nature of the men of Wall Street, Silicon Valley, or the local bar. Interchangeable men who only represent a chance for the woman to feel more feminine. It has nothing to do with the man’s unique qualities.
To learn the skills of a man in general, in the area of women, career, or feeling the way a real man feels in life, it’s in the Mature Masculine Power Program.
If you have ever felt misunderstood by a woman, not valued by a woman, not respected or honored by a woman, or women in general, you might easily learn attraction, but that doesn’t change a single thing about these conditions. You needed to learn COURTSHIP.
If you have ever had a breakup that broke your heart, or a divorce that robbed you blind, or a “missed opportunity” that haunted you for months – even YEARS – then you can learn all the attraction you want, but it will do NOTHING to bring back the past or truly fix the problem.

You Needed Courtship Education, Training And Skill.
It’s in a live training at the Men's Psychology Expeditions, like the one I’m doing right now in London.
And so while there are hundreds of sources of men’s “dating tips” and “attraction bootcamps” these days, there is only ONE potent source of courtship training for men, based in science, by those qualified.
And that’s Men's Psychology.

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