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Fail-safe Power With Women and Work
Most guys think that "having game" or "just bucking up" will get them all they want in work, women or life. The exact thing you need is mastery of boundaries.
I’ll bring it right out here. It’s the incredible power of your Personal Boundary. We hear people far and wide talk about this immense power in the most vague sense – as in “people need to have boundaries,” “that guy needs to get some boundaries,” or “that woman needs some limits set on her.”
But when it comes right down to it, very few people have any concept of what a “boundary” is. It makes sense why: they are invisible, even though they are extraordinarily powerful. After all, who could fault a person for not seeing something invisible?
The thing is, ever since we were small children, we’ve been subject to television advertising and all manner of other advertising too, to the point of today’s telemarketer calls, emails, and even facebook ads.
This marketing intrudes on our lives and has a sole objective of opening up our wallets, and so much of their language (and the themes behind compelling commercials) is to be impatient, careless and freewheeling with our money.
Which is a message directly contrary to having good boundaries. So you see, not only are we not taught about boundaries in mainstream society, but we are all taught from a young age to actually have POOR boundaries or none at all.
The Skills and Powers of Boundaries
Let’s take a quick journey into the skills and powers that having a Personal Boundary affords us. They amplify our power both in relationships and attraction, as well as in careers and our personal growth. Have you ever felt disrespected? Where you are friendly, caring, generous, a good communicator, and through it all – your giving, your thoughtfulness, your willingness to listen and to compromise – you got taken for a ride by people anyway? “No good deed goes unpunished” the corporate mantra says. Well, that’s because of people with bad boundaries.
They are “takers,” and they will take and take and borrow and deceive and use you until you are all used up. When it feels like the boss, the spouse, the girlfriend or ordinary friend, special people in your life and mere acquaintances alike seem to “take you for granted” and not give as much to your interactions as they receive, it’s because YOU were not exercising your universal power of the Personal Boundary.
Your boundary is the very part of your mind that commands respect, and is respecting to others. It is your ability to say NO to others regarding terms of agreement that don’t sit well with you, but it is also your ability to accept rejection or disagreement (“hearing the word NO” in return), as well as saying NO to YOURSELF. The latter is the same as “self-discipline.” Which is why we can say that someone without self-discipline also does not respect themselves very much.
As a result, our dating, relationships, careers, personal lives and personal growth suffers for this lack of respect from others, as well as FOR ourselves. We can then say that such a person is WEAK, or lacking in “character strength” or personal strength. Who wants to hire a “weak person” or a “weak link” to add to the corporate team?
What woman is wildly attracted to a “weak man” or a weak dating prospect?
Suffice it to say that the answer is not many. (At least not high quality women or those with something rich and valuable to bring to the table of dating and relationships.)
Ever feel pretty badly disrespected? Or small matters of disrespect add up over a long period of time?
Boundary skill, understanding and mastery – as much as you can handle – are in MindOS Mastery.
Maturity of Character is Where the Power's At.
Often we think of dating and relationship quality in a man’s life being dependent on his ability to be masculine, dominant, attractive at a primitive level and clever. Yet this is one area in which we clearly divide into two camps – the immature and the mature man (who will tend to attract women of very similar maturity level.)
Fail to work on your boundary weaknesses, and you will tend to attract women with just as much a bossy or demanding nature in those very areas.
- Poor with your use of money? You’ll tend to attract women with lots of demands in the money department.
- Weak about your use of your time, energy or hard work? You’ll tend to attract women who are demanding of your time, your energy and your hard work.
- “Can’t say no” to work duties that bore you, annoy you, drain the life out of you, or either aren’t well suited to your skills, or to your best attributes? The ones you most enjoy? That’s the kind of job and the kind of bosses you will attract into your life again, and again, and again. It’s all about boundaries.
- Can’t tell yourself no to the extra helping of cake or pizza or nachos? You get overweight.
- Can’t have the self-discipline to tell yourself no to the second or third drink too much? You’ll end up with a DUI or alcoholism.
- Can’t say no to the beautiful woman with all the signs of being high maintenance, dramatic, demanding, bossy or impatient? That’s the date, girlfriend or wife you will attract.
To all the world it looks like what we are is what we attract – as if we are magnets for trouble and all we need to do is to think positive thoughts instead, creating a different, more positive identity, more optimism, less “limiting beliefs” and all the other homespun advice motivational speakers advise… …when in reality it is specifically not just that having positive opinions about ourselves and the world around us transforms our lives.
It’s the precise way in which we use our Personal Boundary to ENFORCE those tastes and preferences (whether they be positive, negative, or something in between.)
Boundaries give us strength, respect, self-respect, discipline, stability, reliability, maturity, commitment, true partnership with others, and a host of other skills and strengths that really do build a life far moreso than mere optimism. They are most extensively covered of any material I have ever heard of, in the MindOS Mastery Program.
Not only are they the singular power to use in forging a unique career, personal growth, lasting friendships, and lifelong business and romantic relationships, but they even go so far as to make up a large portion of what is SEXUALLY attractive about us.
Character Supercharges Your Sexual Attraction
I go into it in great depth in the Omega Male Program on attraction, dating and relationships. Women are different than men. They have an entirely unique set of instincts and reflexes when it comes to falling in love and discovering sexual chemistry.
Part of what they need to feel fulfilled and secure in a passionate love relationship is a sense of reliability and constancy, accountability and partnership in the man – which could be summed up with the phrase, “Character maturity.” Boundaries do all that for you, and they are exceedingly easy to learn all the skills and powers of:
Through the general course program on them in MindOS.
And in specific, the attraction, dating and relationship principles of the Omega Male Program. It’s the ultimate “Fail-safe” set of skills when it comes to attraction, dating, relationships, career and your personal life.