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One Strike, You're Out! (with Women)
I was struck by a sudden realization recently about the concept of "which hat am I wearing" that we've covered many times in the teleseminars of http://www.menspsychology.com/university.
It was this: As men, we all wear "career hats" all day long, often every day. It can be a pervasive habit to always keep that career hat on. But...
...one of the things about the psychiatry career hat is that one is always tolerant, always accessible, and when your client, a patient, has a moment (or a month) of drama, you have to weather that, see through it to their suffering, don't take it personally, and in the end, try to help, even while being on the receiving end of such things as their anger, false perceptions, and oftentimes beliefs, lifestyles, and desires that you would never, ever, have yourself.
There's even a unique nature to the medical oath one takes, whether it be the Hippocratic Oath, or the Oath of Maimonides. They both have a nature of the order of "do no wrong." In other words, don't make things worse for a person under your treatment. Certainly, taking to heart people's drama or reactions is a part of that.
For years and years you learn to put your own needs last, and those of the people you care for, first.
Well, hearing a gentleman's reaction to a situation he was in at the department store today struck me.
He was with his two young children, and some older boys - teens - were shooting a basketball in a hoop very near them. He wondered why he felt annoyed and worse - that he felt protective of his children. After all, it was an inflatable basketball they were throwing. He considered that they were strangers, were in a store, not his home, and that the store after all, sold basketballs.
So he walked away with his kids in tow.
However, he distinctly felt a measure lower in masculinity. He thought he should have said something to stop the boys from invading his space, and potentially, the safety of his children. At least a word of annoyance or protest.
We understand very well how this happens through the principles of the Mature Masculine Power Program.
What hit me about it was that in my own life, I have often kept that psychiatrist's hat on and given people a pass once, twice, three times or more when I ought not to have.
Forget about the psychiatry career. Consider that baseball analogy that is so very common...
Three Strikes, You're Out
Have you ever thought of this? We almost take this bit of sports wisdom for granted. Not just psychiatrists, but for all men, there is a benchmark assumption that one ought to always give an activity, a person, or just about anything that doesn't turn out to our favor, THREE CHANCES.
Could there be a reason to give only ONE chance to most things instead? And could there be a difference between men and women on this matter?
Baseball is a traditionally male sport, but what if there is a case for only giving ONE chance to a situation, a person, or an environment?
It all comes down to a very personal set of limits that amount to having a personal boundary.
We cover all the specific ins and outs of masculine life in terms of boundaries in the Masculine Intelligence in Personal Boundaries Program that is our very latest course, here:
I don't do nearly enough to proclaim how useful to a man this program is.
In there, we discover that it's not only male "deal breakers" that matter in building a life, but literally every decision you make that counts.
Your decisions as a man ought to always be beneficial to you and others in a WIN/WIN way - meaning in your career, with women, in friendship, business and everything else.
That means that if what you agree to does not benefit you first, and others associated with you in kind, why are you agreeing to it?
To my mind, that implies a ONE STRIKE YOU'RE OUT policy in order to be the most effective in your life.
One Strike, You're Out
Have you ever been in the situation of taking back a woman that you have broken up with?
Or doing so multiple times?
Have you ever gone back to work in a toxic environment, day after day, and found that nothing has changed, even after "three strikes?"
All along you could have benefitted from a One Strike, You're Out policy. That's just good boundaries.
Just think of all the money you would have saved, the pain you would not have suffered, and the wasted time perhaps most of all.
I recently had the benefit of working with two men on their social skills, and both had followed along with our material for quite some time.
But they both had delayed doing a live, in person program for that same time. It never was quite the right time either financially, or in terms of their social entanglements, even though multiple bootcamp opportunities had already passed.
What was even more striking to me was how rapidly they learned to spur not just attraction in women on DAY ONE, but how quickly they figured out the right kind of women for them - in terms of looks, personality style, maturity level, interests, beliefs, and goals in life.
It was like a tidal wave of personal change all in one night for them both.
And all of us - me included - wondered why in the world they had waited so long for training.
So it was then that I had to turn this concept on it's ear and realize that even with that "helping professions" mindset - that psychiatrist's hat still on - a ONE STRIKE YOU'RE OUT rule still applies just as much in helping others as it does toward promoting your own welfare (and sanity.)
I ought to have been much more insistent, up front, and even "pushy" in getting them to training - removing all obstacles and reservations.
Because after all, wouldn't knowing how to walk right up and kiss a woman in minutes have been more empowering and positive in the face of a recent divorce, and several dates and phone numbers in pocket been useful after decades of not finding quite the right woman?
Sometimes it's best not to be soft in expressing your views to others, or holding back on what you just might think could be good for them...
...and an error to think that what's good for you won't be good to others in even greater amounts.
Especially when you live your life by trying to always create WIN/WIN's for all involved.
So here's your chance.
I've removed all financial roadblocks, scheduling roadblocks and impairments on you getting the live, in person training at attraction and dating that you deserve.
I've even created a way to get all of our training programs combined as streaming videos available to you for the tiniest cost ever - but can only afford to do so for a one-day sale. They are here:
There are back to back weekends available this month - and if you can't come to one, then certainly there's time for another - and from anywhere in the country it's looking like the flight prices are around a measley $200.
All of our programs on video streaming will be available for lifetime use in the next 24 hours for the price of $500, and one night of bootcamp in Chicago for St Patty's Weekend days will be that same price of $500. If that's not a good weekend for you, the next one is the next weekend in New York City for the same price per night, at:
One strike, you're out. This is the chance of a lifetime - financially and educationally.