Robert De Niro's Secret Dating Tips

It's a difficult interview. Robert De Niro is a man of few words, and known to be a shy interview, but the ordinarily "straight-man" Brian Williams does his best.

The Tribeca Film Festival is a Force Majeure in and of itself, a renaissance for New York that sprang from the ashes of 9-11. NBC New anchor Brian Williams was too busy getting ready to fly to England to cover the impending Royal Wedding between Prince William and Kate Middleton to be a full juror at the festival this time around.

Instead, he offered to "interview Bobby De Niro as a fan" instead of the usual stone-faced narrator of hard news. Williams was hilarious.

Lately I've been thinking about the origins of "political incorrectness." In many cases where political incorrectness becomes an issue, a man might be talking in a masculine voice about masculine issues, overheard by women or be eavesdropped upon, and then be accused of being a cad.

Is it "bad" to speak your mind as a male, in a male voice, about male issues?

No. It's not. You have a right to. You are being real, true and honest.

On being questioned about his life and works, Robert De Niro went beyond this definition so far as to protect who he was really referring to when he essentially opined about the idiocy of a certain presidential candidate - and current real estate magnate - in making the assertion that President Obama may not be an American citizen. De Niro didn't even say the name.

When asked about his beliefs in God, De Niro simply stated, "If there is one, well... let's just say He has a LOT of explaining to do..." To which there was nothing else to say.

And when questioned about his reported difficulty being an interviewee, De Niro, a purportedly shy person, softly remarked, "Well in certain situations I guess you could say I am, but in others I am not..."

To which Williams said, "Well thank you Bobby for being here tonight," drawing laughs from the audience.

The interview was anything but over.

One's ears would perk up when Williams asked De Niro about his relationship to his father, citing Williams' own relationship to having a "19 year old masculine child of my own" - a word not used so much these days - "masculine" - until you got that it was a reference to The Godfather.

De Niro told the tale of how his own father had been a painter with a studio in the area of town years previously thought of as a no-man's land, but which today is a thriving cultural city center, literally "rising from the ashes."

There was never a direct reference to women, sex, attraction, or his dating history in the interview. After a time, one got the idea that Bobby was not clumsy or lacking in confidence or shy in any way. Instead, De Niro has the DNA of "masculine person." He has the prime core attractor to women - mysteriousness. I can only imagine that De Niro represents to women something compelling to discover.

The guy is not even shy about calling God Himself on His own bullshit.

Be Mysterious

Mysteriousness is the prime sexual attractor of women that we teach at the beginning of the Omega Male Program (Masculine Intelligence with Women - miWomen)...

Women cannot resist your secrets - the mystery of what it is that supports your sense of masculine identity, like steel struts in a concrete skyscraper. De Niro was born with this quality. It's something that makes an imperfect man of even significant errors eminently forgivable. Just ask Bill Clinton or JFK.

It's what makes an interview with Robert De Niro fascinating, even without disclosures and explanations. Certainly De Niro has less explaining to do than God himself.

Which brings us to the second grand dating tip and natural, inborn attraction trait of Robert Anthony (not "Mario," as erroneously quoted in IMDB.com and quickly corrected by this actor who clearly values and respects his own name) De Niro.

That trait could well be called "shamelessness."

Be "Shameless"

Being shameless as a man is not the same as we usually think. Ironically when we normally use the word, we actually imply that the person should be feeling ashamed, wrong, embarrassed, or even ignorant. None of the above is true of De Niro.

We go to great lengths in the Mature Masculine Power Program (soon to be called Masculine Intelligence in Being a Man - miMan) to explain a new definition of shame as not just an anxiety emotion akin to guilt but a depletion of one's sense of masculinity, or being masculine.

When you feel shame or embarrassment, it simply means you feel less masculine. You have had your sense of masculinity cut down, as when an accuser drowns out your male voice in accusing you of political incorrectness.

If this happens, then you are being less masculine, and it may stand to reason that diminished masculinity equals less attractiveness to women, less of a sense of vitality and mission for your life, and less to offer not only your own sense of fulfillment, but the disregard or even derision of others.

De Niro does not fall for this, not with women, not with interviewers and not with this acting career. He is shameless in the best sense of the word. He will not allow his masculinity to be diminished or cut down.

Not All Men Are The Same Kind of Shameless

Think of another actor of less renown, Charlie Sheen, and you might know what I mean. In contrast to De Niro, Charlie Sheen recently saw a rapid growth in his appeal to the masses immediately after his dramas that have been so universally depicted in the news, but Sheen is at risk of squandering his bold, public appeal of unapologetic masculinity.

What is the difference between Sheen and De Niro?

Robert De Niro is not a rude person.

He is diplomatic, mature, and courteous. He doesn't trash the reputations of others, even though most of his on-film performances turn out to be masterful expressions of unrestrained masculinity.

The Godfather, Cape Fear, and the most recent, Limitless, show a De Niro fully masculine and powerful, but not mature, in contrast to the real Robert De Niro, an actor and a gentleman.

Shameless and Rude, or Shameless and Diplomatic?

Why is "being shameless" attractive to women? And why is De Niro a master of shamelessness in the best possible way?

As we've said in the Mature Masculine Power Program, shame is a depletion of masculinity, and masculinity is ultimately what romantically attracts women. Shamelessness is the opposite and indicates a high level of masculinity.

Not all shameless guys are made equal, nor equally attractive.

Women are also attracted to character, maturity, confidence that springs from a life's hardscrabble experiences, and the maturity to have manners, wisdom, and discrimination in one's words.

Yet such words must also be unapologetic, without shame.

So it's possible to be shameless yet rude, which is ultimately unattractive to women. It's also unattractive to women to be courteous yet shameful, because of its lack of raw masculinity. The best way - the De Niro way - is to be both shameless and high-in-character. De Niro has a basic constitution that is both honest and self-respecting, yet boldly intriguing, mysterious, and masculine.

Without even having to speak in more than one-sentence replies, he explained to Brian Williams two core secrets to his attractiveness to women:

• Be Mysterious.
   
• Be Diplomatically Unapologetic.

And one might add - Keep your Nose Clean, or let's say, "singlehandedly resurrect the lifeblood of your nation's most core cultural center."