Turning Shame and Rage Into Masculine Power

Take all that embarrassment and shame, all the rage it causes in you, and transform it to masculinity and the powerful rewards within.
You may have heard it before – that “shame and guilt are not the same thing.”
It’s true. Every therapist says so, and might add that guilt is something that is useful and guides you, while shame is something destructive, pervasive and harms your life and your success.
Also all true.
But what good is this knowledge if we don’t have practical applications?
Sometimes a woman will make you feel like you are wrong to the bone, and she will often be wrong.
You might even start to believe her if you are exposed long enough.
But sometimes there are things about yourself you need to change.
Sometimes you’ll be doing great at your career, really headed toward a life’s mission, really feeling ALIVE, but then WHAM, you start feeling unconfident, as if someone has it in for you, or you might be fired, or coworkers have something up their sleeve, and the feeling suddenly overtakes you…
Well today, I’m going to show you how to actually turn these things to Masculine POWER, as if by magic…
Many people say that there are two aspects to criticism from others, and the changes that are possible out of that:
 
1. WHO You Are
2. WHAT You Do
 
They may say that the second is something you can change, and what you ought to feel guilty about, but the first is UNCHANGEABLE, and is what SHAME is about.
I disagree to a point.
 
GUILT
If we were to look at the pure GUILT part of things, we’d use some MindOS Mastery, and notice that GUILT is something that arises from WITHIN us when we sense that we personally, have participated in a Win/Lose interaction with another. When we caused someone else to come out on the losing end of the stick, unnecessarily.
It truly is about something we’ve DONE, rather than WHO WE ARE, because it has involved a decision in our behavior.
When we are children, we essentially have “empty tanks” of both conscience (ethics about whether WE are being destructive to others), and intuition (shrewdness about environments, and whether THEY are being destructive to US.)
With social experience, we get negative consequences (such as criticism), that gradually causes us to fill up our “conscience tank” through punishment.  With time, we exercise guilt from that tank on OURSELVES in effect, as a measure to put the clamps on our own animal INSTINCTS that want more, more, more, even at the expense or destructiveness to others.
 
SHAME
But since we’ve now brought in instincts here, we need to ALSO address something beyond the maturity of character that we cover in MindOS, in the conscience.  We have to talk about MASCULINITY, which is covered in full in the brand new taping of the Mature Masculine Power Program.
In that program, we talk about how masculinity itself is not just an energy, not just a resource that has to be vague, or mysterious, or is to be ignored or left alone, underdeveloped in the unconscious.  It CAN be tapped into, understood, brought out, and used in a highly systematic way that I have just now completed the technology for.
Within it, you’ll find a series of precise tools, not vague qualities. It’s like being a superhero with a utility belt and you can pick and choose from among what I now call Power-Instincts.
When you are attacked with criticism from the OUTSIDE, it causes SHAME.  It is a commentary on WHO YOU ARE to be sure, but it risks actually DIMINISHING YOUR MASCULINITY. And that’s my point: SHAME FOR MALES IS A CUT-DOWN OF MASCULINITY SPECIFICALLY. It’s NOT the same for women and it’s a different set of tools in the toolbelt that get impaired, faulty, or broken.
Yet, not all shame is the same. The classic view is that guilt is good and shame is bad. Guilt is supposed to be temporary, true – in that once you’ve changed a behavior, a “what you do,” it’s time to DROP THE GUILT.  In fact not doing so is doing you, your loved ones, friends and teammates a disservice in life.
SOME shame is actually ACCURATE – that something about you DOES need to change at the core – such as an addiction, an immature little habit of offending others, insulting them or being selfish.
If you were to add these up, they would tend to amount to features of CHARACTER being immature and in need of PERSONAL GROWTH.
One of the things I have found over the years of teaching, training and treating men, is that they don’t all have a uniform personal growth. Its the deep stuff of the MindOS Mastery Program, the general principles that are the same for both men and women. Some guys need work on their conscience, some on their intuition, some on their self-esteem and emotional maturity, some on their boundaries, some on ignorance of the intellect.  But none of these necessarily bring along the others in their advancement.
As a result, on occasion, when you experience SHAME from others, some of that may be ACCURATE about WHO YOU ARE.
But…
As in the new Mature Masculine Power, it is a reflex of masculinity that we must not show weakness, which is a feature of a part of your masculinity I call the Ares Circuit, fully covered in that program.  Add to this, links to the Sisyphus Circuit – the “nose to the grindstone” or work-ethic piece of masculinity, and you will have a tendency to globally reject the advice or opinions of others on WHO YOU ARE, even if you are a mature man to begin with.
And you’d be largely right, because if someone is the same maturity or less so than you, they WILL have a tendency to do something called “Projection” onto you.  They take their OWN shame, their OWN failures, and unwittingly, unconsciously try to pin them on YOU.
Then THEY can feel better and YOU feel worse.
But what if, what if something of what they say ABOUT WHO YOU ARE is true?  Further, what if, just what if they happen to be MORE MATURE OF CHARACTER THAN YOU?
They would be offering you a great GIFT.
It’s no wonder most men, even mature ones, feel RAGE at this situation.  A woman scolding you for something you feel is a part of you, or is you “just being yourself.”
Or getting a job review that’s damning, and states that “he doesn’t work well with others. Is incomplete with projects, and passive.”
You feel RAGE against that, and understandably so.
Why?  Because it’s a commentary on WHO you are, and that is SHAMING, diminishing of the level of MASCULINITY, which then in turn feels like your very LIFE has dwindled out of you. You feel at the unconscious level like there is an actual THREAT ON YOUR LIFE, and rage comes out.
This is a two sided coin, and I call it Shame-Rage.  When something SHAMES you (lowers masculinity), it simultaneously generates an equal amount of RAGE.  They are in fact the same thing, just as Anger and Sadness are two sides of the same thing – one aimed OUT and one aimed IN.
 
Shame-Rage To Power
Taking people’s shaming comments and actions can be turned all to your favor and great power by doing two things: studying the MindOS Mastery program for information on all the deep features of MATURITY, and studying the new Mature Masculine Power Program at on all the features of these “circuits” of masculinity.
Why?
Because in the example above, two circuits may be responsible, and one is immature while the other is mature. From the MMP, the “Narcissus Circuit” causes you to take your arrogant self, and tear it to pieces when others shame you – it’s immature.  But your “Ares Circuit” causes you to push through any obstacle, and right through false criticism with force when you are being attacked by a lesser, more juvenile person than yourself.
So if you can assess the maturity of others with these two programs, you have a method of navigating guilt, good shame and bad shame.  Then you can take the good shame, and use it to transform the weaknesses about WHO YOU ARE.
When you run into the person again in the future, they will see that you’ve stopped smoking or alcohol, obesity or rudeness, ignorance, and have a curious mind now.  They may, if an enemy, even wish you hadn’t been smart enough to use their criticisms.
And you will be smoke free, drink free, diplomatic, confident, mature, fully masculine, and fully in POWER.
It’s all in the new MMP.