Women No Longer Admire Men

Maybe you have at some point had a breakup. No, for sure at some point you've had a breakup, whether it's a divorce or simply the end of a string of dates. And leading up to that point you've felt a distance from her, a disrespect certainly or even a disdain. She probably quoted someone as saying that you "don't do enough" for her, or don't listen, or don't "commit" (in the way she wants, nevermind what you you need to feel committed back to), or that you "need to work on the relationship.""

Chances are that when you heard this, you did more work, just as you were asked to, and just like you respond on the job. You want to be known as a hard-working guy who is honest and not lazy, and have a can-do attitude about your life.

But it wasn't good enough.

She left you, or had still more things you don't do enough of or reasons that left you feeling "just not good enough."

Well let's just dispense with that right now, by talking about the most glaringly absent trait in women in western society, and one which was fully alive and present just thirty some years ago. You can kiss it goodbye for now, unless we can make a difference as a publication for men that also wholeheartedly supports helping women learn about how men really think and feel.

It's the ability to ADMIRE a man.

It's gone.

I had the unfortunate but compelling experience last year to be in Britain, where a UK woman summed up for me what she viewed as the difference between American and British men. She said, "Sorry to inform you, but American men are considered dishonorable until proven otherwise, while British men are still (barely so) considered honorable until proven otherwise."

I was stunned, but immediately knew exactly what she was talking about. It's the same thing I've heard from men who go abroad to date Eastern European women, Asian women, and basically any woman who has never watched Oprah regularly.

Women are right and to be commended for seeking empowerment. And all human beings - the other half - ought to do so as well. But something has happened in American culture which unwittingly has led to not just the disempowerment of men psychologically, but indirectly of women too. Any article you read today about women not being able to find a husband, or a good father, or being at a loss as to why they can't find love that also has commitment to them as a crucial piece is caused by this same effect:

Part of courtship - "Step Two" for women that I lay out in the Omega Male Program - must include a sense of the woman admiring a man in a nonverbal way, letting him know that he is liked, could be loved, and is preferred over other men.

Luckily, women still have an unconscious that operates without their conscious control, and in their body language and behavior, they silently do the reflex behavior that still reveals, after thousands of years of evolution, that they still do want men and desire them.

What other teachers won't tend to tell you is that romance is a dance for two - not just the woman getting her needs satisfied or the man rebelling against the cultural norm to practice "better game" in order to get his own needs satisfied.

Step two of sexual attraction has a step for women AND a step for men.

As in much of life, it is ladies first here too.

She expresses admiration for you that is real and heartfelt. It may not be in words, but it is most certainly in body language at the very least.

She signals you with her smile, and her tilt of the head, her gaze, and her grooming of herself while looking deep in your eyes.

Most men don't notice this at first, and it's diminished by her own disdain for "stroking the fragile male ego" so supported by our media and our culture.

It's not a fragile ego that men have at all. It's a necessary and valid step of human courtship that proves yes, this woman prefers me over other men and may be worth investing in.

It's a call for gentlemanly behavior, demonstrating your wares as a man, an invitation to show what you are made of, and what resources you possess that could very much benefit her should she decide to align with you in something more than just a light dating relationship.

So the biggest problem that women have today is doing their part at step two of attraction, and letting you know that they like you.

When they complain of your lack of gentlemanliness, or your singleminded focus on sex, they never stop to wonder whether they have done the immediate step that precedes it - showing you that they admire something about you (which usually needs to be about your career if it is to be most effective) - and instead they scratch their heads as to why you haven't treated them, or shown them your potential interest and ability to commit. All of which is caused by you not getting any signal that it would be a great investment in yourself or your life to do so. They don't do their own step two of sexual attraction and courtship.

Last time we covered the very first step of sexual attraction that falls upon men to deliver on - to be a source of curiosity or mystery to the woman.

Today's lesson is to notice that when you do find a woman who really understands men, and she lets you know how admirable you are to HER, it is your turn to show her your interest in return.

The way to do this has nothing to do with sexual prowess, and everything to do with both what resources you have - it need not be money - in terms of yoru energy, humor, knowledge, honesty, solidness of character in general, or what may benefit her life about you in a reliable way.

Step Two of attraction for men involves showing the woman what you're worth, and doing something for her that demonstrates it - whether it's buying her a drink, or listening attentively to her.

This is the reason that many men who take the Sexual Attraction Survey think they are delivering the right answers when they respond like a proud, "alpha-male" - and then score low on the test.

Women DO need a man who is dominant and assertive and sexy - an alpha-male - and yet they also need a man of character and maturity whatever your age.

If all you have is character, then they peg you as a nice, reliable guy who is not so sexy.

And if all you have is machismo to the nth power, they may be briefly attracted, but quickly discount your value as a man for not having that "edge" to you that says, yes, I am a courteous man, but I am a man.

Overcome this by practicing the voluntary, at your own discretion, ability to provide them the resources of time, attention, energy, protection and safety, or even pride that is likely to be a benefit to her for life if she were to select and stay with you romantically.

Most men who have been through a breakup know that something happens in the woman to diminish her sense of you being a valuable benefit to her life.

Hold out for the woman to see this about you, and don't accept one who doesn't have the capacity to admire what she admires and let you know so.

We cover this all in the Omega Male Program on dating and relationships, and it always comes with the 500$ training program called the Virtual Dating Coach for free.

Well I want to go further than that for you. We have a new program out, called Masculine Intelligence in Breaking Up (Or Winning Her Back)... I'd like to give that to you as well, for FREE, when you get the Omega Male Program at normal price. The first 50 gentlemen who get this deal also get ONE YEAR of free "breakup insurance" - in which a dedicated cell phone only for you, and a dedicated email address only for you have me immediately available day or night for the time surrounding a breakup if you encounter one.

I hope you take advantage of this offer, as only 50 men will get it.