Cheaterella

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Yo, yo, yo!  Hey, Hey, Hey!  What up, what up, what up!

When we think of infidelity, I think as a society we like to think it is always the men who are the ones cheating.  The women have no part in such atrocities, right?  Well, men DO cheat more, but maybe only by a few percentage points...and women are catching up to them.  Has it always been this way?

I don't think that it has always been this way.  Yes, women have always cheated on men and vice-versa, but I think our current trend as a culture has led to the increase in female infidelity.  Women, like men, look for someone else that can fill the void that is lacking in their current relationship.  Why is this?

Let us now analyze the situation...(YIKES a Magician analyzing!)

Part of the problem I think is poor matching KWML wise coupled with incongruent goals and character maturity on both the male and female ends.  This is a recipe for disaster.  It's like a man liking a woman JUST because she is beautiful and a woman being attracted to a man JUST because he is mysterious.  If that is all you're working with, than it should be no surprise that your relationship is always in turmoil. 

The relationship needs to be durable...the man and woman need to be best friends for the relationship to run as smoothly as possible.  Sure a Lover and King or Warrior and Magician CAN have a successful relationship, but it may be difficult in the long run compared to a Lover and Warrior or Queen and Magician. 

The goals of the couple need to be congruent or complimentary to eachother.  You can't have one person wanting to backpack all over the world while the other person refuses to leave their front yard.  You have got to meet somewhere in the middle.  Much like having two people that are together and one behaves like they are three years old while the other behaves more mature.  That doesn't work either.  Things need to be balanced.

Alright next point...

In our culture women are taking dominant roles leaving men to be the caregivers.  You got these sissy boys letting their wives and girlfriends take the dominant role.  This is some bad mojo.  Men need to wear the pants in the relationship...women subconsciously need that from a man in order for a relationship to work.  I'm not saying career driven and successful women are not great by any means, I'm just saying men need to step up to the plate and be what is needed of them.  

Give women what they need...not always what they want and vice-versa.

And no, I'm not saying to be a abusive, controlling guy...I'm saying BE the leader, BE the strong one, BE decisive and so forth.  You get it?  Good.

Perhaps the most important part of preventing infidelity are great personal boundaries for both the man and woman.  If you both are beyond strong in that area cheating won't happen.  Personal boundaries are covered in MindOS and I suggest learning all you can on how to apply them, because they may save your azz one day...literally.

That's all I got for now.

Whelp, see ya later!