Being a Man

I believe that it was Socrates who said, "An unexamined life is not worth living," and Shakespeare who many centuries later would write, "To thine own self, be true," but for those of us with a frantic pace in our careers today, and plenty of bills to pay in a down economy, who has the time to really dig into "self-examination?"


Dr. Paul,
I am glad we spoke. Your work has been tremendously helpful to me. In fact my best memories started with following your advice in the interview you did with David D in his Dating Gurus series.
I've wanted to tell you the story for a while...Cliff note format:
About to graduate college while working on feature films in New Orleans.....still scared of many things especially approaching women in clubs, especially when traveling solo....
1. Listened to interview.
2. Rented Count of Monte Cristo from Blockbuster

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What Is "Masculine Intelligence?"

It's a new skill for today's man. But it has been around since the beginning of time...

We call it Masculine Intelligence®, and we understand if yours is rusty from non-use. These days, men are not encouraged to cultivate it.

Take, for example, the former controversy surrounding the President and Creative Director of J. Crew, Jenna Lyons.

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Being Respectful Does Not Mean Tolerating Bullies

I have something to say to you and you likely have felt it before but not had the words for it.

It's time to go back to basics and talk about something we almost never discuss on their lonesome - Personal Boundaries.

Let's begin with a recent news story - one of the many depicting men as "bad," "derelict," "shunning responsibility," "commitment phobic," or any of a number of other words or phrases that amount to none other than bullying.


I was walking along in Greenwich Village the other night, when something struck me. I had always thought of New York as a city of visual enticement. Everywhere you turn from Times Square to Central Park, there is something compelling to see. It's crowded and noisy though, and once immersed for long enough, you tend to turn inward and seek some privacy through ignoring the very thing that stands out at first about it - the visual panorama of activity.

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The Gordian Knot of Your Life

Maybe you are a survivalist and a scrapper in your life, who has always managed to get by some way, somehow. You've done a great deal of work on your life too - no laziness here - but over time, "the squeaky wheel has gotten the grease"... leaving you with numerous connections, habits, resources, and burdens all tied together with each other.


Since when did America's frat boys become so interested in politics?

Over at the Wired science blog, Jonathan Lehrer examines the reaction to Osama bin Laden's killing, which brought out a disproportionate number of young men out into the streets of Washington D.C., New York and other American cities.