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How to Win by Surrendering

Words are important. What they mean and how we use them can get you a job, or send you into bankruptcy. They can cause the end of a date to find you in the arms of a woman, or trudging home in the cold, bitterly. They can even make the difference between living for years in a certainty that you are no good, worthless, a loser who is never going to win the career, the woman, or the life you dare not think you deserve, and actually having those things.

If you didn't believe words were important in this way, you likely wouldn't be reading this magazine.

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Overcoming the Day Job

Q: My question is about choosing a right mission and about the moral issue of leaving a company just after having been hired. Last week I started a new job that is limited to one year. I am quite good at it, and the pay is very good. However, sitting in front of the computer screen all the day , this job has no potential to masculinize me or to help me learn to be in charge of others. I am thinking about quitting the job as this year might be a waste of time.

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The Prince and the Pauper

New York is one of the toughest cities in the world for this men's problem - "if you make it there, you'll make it anywhere" - but in the age of the internet, financial competition among men (and ever more with women) is more in your face than ever.

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Michael Jordan Wrestles Angels

It's a new year and the stakes in your life couldn't be higher. You just know it's time to finally kick some ass and make things happen for yourself.

You could be in your twenties and for most of your life so far, you couldn't get yourself a girlfriend. You know that if you can't do that, you'll have an even harder time getting on track to the life you want in the future, which might include getting married. You can't even think about career issues right now with a challenge like this.

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We all have varying degrees of tolerance for being criticized, and for how much, when, where and why to associate with coworkers, bosses and friends. As the world economy sputters and missteps - leaving many "trapped" in their current work environment - it sure would be handy to have a quick guide to recognizing the various brands of unavoidable criticism, while being aware of how to be a better, more constructive critic of others.

Perhaps one of the ultimate quotes for men on the topic of courage is that from Teddy Roosevelt's famous speech:

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Think Like a Surfer, Not an Accountant

Many guys struggle with career decisions such as what to choose in a job, when to quit, how to navigate the corporate politics, or how to even stay afloat in this economy in the first place. Very few have a "bird's eye view" on what their likely future path is going to be in career, as most of us at least some of the time, tend to "wing it." It turns out that this might be the whole point - that in discovering and executing on what it is that you were meant to do in life, it's better to have the mentality of a surfer than an accountant.

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Rising to Power: The New Science of "The Zone"

Men are wired to worry about how they fare against other men. How do we stack up, and where do we fit in to the hierarchy? This ancient reflex makes perfect evolutionary sense. Consider that males, because of their larger body size and muscularity, hunted and killed in primitive times.

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