Depresculinity

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How to Keep Your Power Around a Woman

Many men fall victim to peer pressure or gossip pressure around women and are too quick to surrender power, allow lowered self-esteem, masculinity, or agree to what you don't agree with. Here's how to stop that surrender in its tracks...

The news comes in more and more in support of what you already know inside, instinctively.

I have two things to share with you today – one, a new research finding, and two, a conversation with a man who’s wild about evolutionary psychology.

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It's the age-old question of what motivates us.

One of the ways of looking at a guy who seems to have a problem with motivation is this: is he even interested in what he is trying to get motivated to do?

And if he isn't motivated, could it potentially be that what he tries to set himself about doing is wrong for him, not suited to him, won't in the end be the reward he really wants if successful, and therefore it's all for the best that he not be motivated at that item?

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The Only Real Science of Hope and "Optimism"

It's been a real juggernaut of personal growth technology lately for Men's Psychology Magazine, and we've diverted from the pure dating and relationship material for men for a few weeks (maybe we are overcompensating for the high-intensity programs about to happen in Berlin and London in the next few weeks - all about women, meeting them, communicating, body language, reading their behavior, attracting them, dating them, selecting them for fit to your life, deciding on girlfri

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Depresculinity: A New Kind of Depression in Men

You always knew there ought to be a name for it - the state of mind suffered only by men, related to women and or work... and not be fully living. I have a word to coin. One that's likely been in your life at some point, if only for a day, or a week, or a month. It blocked your ability to meet women, but not to be out and about socially. It thwarted your sense of pride in your work, but not enough to prevent you from getting out of bed every morning to take the bus to that office cubicle.

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Overcoming the Day Job

Q: My question is about choosing a right mission and about the moral issue of leaving a company just after having been hired. Last week I started a new job that is limited to one year. I am quite good at it, and the pay is very good. However, sitting in front of the computer screen all the day , this job has no potential to masculinize me or to help me learn to be in charge of others. I am thinking about quitting the job as this year might be a waste of time.

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 @WomensHealthMag: "My favorite thing to do on Saturday is__." Read @menspsychology magazine "because, you know, I'm a dude." 07:06 PM - 01 Dec 12

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You Can't Afford "Surprises"

Don't be one of those guys who is "caught with his pants down" when there are layoffs or the girlfriend with the wandering eye wanders into the arms of another man.
In the past couple of weeks I’ve had one friend get “surprised” by a layoff from work, a second one “surprised” by a sudden demand by his girlfriend that they move in together “or else,” and a third get “surprised” by his seven year wife announcing she wants a divorce.

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