Depresculinity

It seems like even Soul legends and sex symbols such as D'Angelo can feel a sense of inadequacy from time to time.

This article reveals that the great savior of U.S. soul and owner of a body women drooled over is now having problems living up to his stud status.

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 @WomensHealthMag: "My favorite thing to do on Saturday is__." Read @menspsychology magazine "because, you know, I'm a dude." 07:06 PM - 01 Dec 12

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The Only Real Science of Hope and "Optimism"

It's been a real juggernaut of personal growth technology lately for Men's Psychology Magazine, and we've diverted from the pure dating and relationship material for men for a few weeks (maybe we are overcompensating for the high-intensity programs about to happen in Berlin and London in the next few weeks - all about women, meeting them, communicating, body language, reading their behavior, attracting them, dating them, selecting them for fit to your life, deciding on girlfri

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Depresculinity: A New Kind of Depression in Men

You always knew there ought to be a name for it - the state of mind suffered only by men, related to women and or work... and not be fully living. I have a word to coin. One that's likely been in your life at some point, if only for a day, or a week, or a month. It blocked your ability to meet women, but not to be out and about socially. It thwarted your sense of pride in your work, but not enough to prevent you from getting out of bed every morning to take the bus to that office cubicle.

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You Can't Afford "Surprises"

Don't be one of those guys who is "caught with his pants down" when there are layoffs or the girlfriend with the wandering eye wanders into the arms of another man.
In the past couple of weeks I’ve had one friend get “surprised” by a layoff from work, a second one “surprised” by a sudden demand by his girlfriend that they move in together “or else,” and a third get “surprised” by his seven year wife announcing she wants a divorce.

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Rising to Power: The New Science of "The Zone"

Men are wired to worry about how they fare against other men. How do we stack up, and where do we fit in to the hierarchy? This ancient reflex makes perfect evolutionary sense. Consider that males, because of their larger body size and muscularity, hunted and killed in primitive times.

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It's the age-old question of what motivates us.

One of the ways of looking at a guy who seems to have a problem with motivation is this: is he even interested in what he is trying to get motivated to do?

And if he isn't motivated, could it potentially be that what he tries to set himself about doing is wrong for him, not suited to him, won't in the end be the reward he really wants if successful, and therefore it's all for the best that he not be motivated at that item?

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