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How to Keep Your Power Around a Woman

Many men fall victim to peer pressure or gossip pressure around women and are too quick to surrender power, allow lowered self-esteem, masculinity, or agree to what you don't agree with. Here's how to stop that surrender in its tracks...

The news comes in more and more in support of what you already know inside, instinctively.

I have two things to share with you today – one, a new research finding, and two, a conversation with a man who’s wild about evolutionary psychology.


Many a man finds himself defensive with a woman when the transition is upon us - the change from casual to committed in love, the choice between a better job and a better woman, and that raise and promotion versus not rocking the boat of friendship with one. Here's how to stop defensiveness in its tracks...

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Overcoming the Day Job

Q: My question is about choosing a right mission and about the moral issue of leaving a company just after having been hired. Last week I started a new job that is limited to one year. I am quite good at it, and the pay is very good. However, sitting in front of the computer screen all the day , this job has no potential to masculinize me or to help me learn to be in charge of others. I am thinking about quitting the job as this year might be a waste of time.


It's the age-old question of what motivates us.

One of the ways of looking at a guy who seems to have a problem with motivation is this: is he even interested in what he is trying to get motivated to do?

And if he isn't motivated, could it potentially be that what he tries to set himself about doing is wrong for him, not suited to him, won't in the end be the reward he really wants if successful, and therefore it's all for the best that he not be motivated at that item?


Hi Dr Paul,

When a woman tries to make a man jealous is it to test him, motivate him to chase her or just plain immaturity? I have read other posts about the two types of jealousy (good-territorial and bad-losing mommy) but am still not sure whether to accept it as part of the courtship dance, bust her on it or even just discount her and move on.

Thanks in advance.


We usually hear about the importance of resolving arguments with empathy and perspective for the other person described as "there are two sides to every coin," or "what would it be like if the shoe was on the other foot?"

What about thinking about the shoe itself in that metaphor?

Today we have a pretty flawless, thorough way to look at the process of forgiving a woman who's (maybe) done you wrong, and a way to really amplify your own gains in personal growth in the process.


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