Stress Causes Men to Go Out On The Town

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Stress Causes Men to Go Out On The Town

A team of researchers led by the psychologists at the University of Freiburg, Germany, examined in a study how men react in stressful situations have disproven that humans always show the "fight-or-flight" response to stress. Some scientists argue that women show an alternate "tend-and-befriend" response to stress -- a protective ("tend") and friendship-offering ("befriend") reaction. Men, in contrast, are often thought to become aggressive under stress. One researcher - Dr. Von Dawans concluded instead that, "Apparently men also show social approach behavior as a direct consequence of stress."

The results are published in the  journal Psychological Science.  

Subjects who were under stress showed significantly more positive social behavior than control subjects who were not in a stressful situation. Negative social behavior, on the other hand, was not affected by stress. A second researcher, Prof. Markus Heinrichs, concluded, "From previous studies in our laboratory, we already knew that positive social contact with a trusted individual before a stressful situation reduces the stress response. Apparently, this coping strategy is anchored so strongly that people can also change their stress responses during or immediately after the stress through positive social behavior."

As we know from the MindOS Mastery Program, stress can be defined as of two general types - "Hurt" or "Loss." As a result, while loss can cause a stress response of anxiety, which directs mature men to the possibility of responding in COURAGE, hurt can offer a mature man the opportunity to respond to his injury and the common experience of not adequately getting his needs met with ASSERTIVENESS. So our response to the finding is that one's stress response will not be universal, but has something to do with where on a spectrum of maturity a man is. The findings suggest that the common thought in some circles that "men are aggressive and women are social" is inaccurate - laudable findings by these researchers support this.

However, a second consideration is that one's PERSONALITY STYLE as discussed in the KWML Mastery Program must also have a role one may posit. Consider that those who are anchored most in the emotional response to a stress with "nuturing" or "well-being" - called "Kings" and "Lovers" in personality style will be naturally good at assertiveness if they are mature, addiction if they have much developmental work to do, and will be more vulnerable to loss than hurt as stresses. Then consider that those who are anchored most in the emotional repsonse to a stress with "action" or "confidence" - called "Warriors" and "Magicians" in personality style will be naturally good at courage if they are mature, aggression if they have developmental work to do, and will be more vulnerable to hurt than loss as stresses. 

So masculinity is a different thing from personality, but men are not universally aggressive under stress.

MindOS is at http://www.menspsychology.com/courses/migrowth

And KWML is at http://www.menspsychology.com/courses/misocial

Consider these MRI findings about differences between men and women under stress:

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