Attracting Women

Ever feel unvalued by a woman? This article absolutely decodes their ability to be thankful and the celebrate YOU...

 Winning at Work

Let me start by saying that I love amateurs. I love being an amateur at ninety-eight of the top one-hundred or so most enjoyable things in life. I wonder where all the amateurs of the world have gone.

 Being of Worth

It's easy to claim you're after a goal, but very few men reach their dreams without these two things...
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Turning Shame and Rage Into Masculine Power

Take all that embarrassment and shame, all the rage it causes in you, and transform it to masculinity and the powerful rewards within.
You may have heard it before – that “shame and guilt are not the same thing.”
It’s true. Every therapist says so, and might add that guilt is something that is useful and guides you, while shame is something destructive, pervasive and harms your life and your success.
Also all true.
But what good is this knowledge if we don’t have practical applications?


Many a man finds himself defensive with a woman when the transition is upon us - the change from casual to committed in love, the choice between a better job and a better woman, and that raise and promotion versus not rocking the boat of friendship with one. Here's how to stop defensiveness in its tracks...

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What You Taught Us...

First, we want to thank you all for being with us these ten years of growth on a mission to specifically help men to advance their lives, overcome challenges, discover things they never knew about themselves or what they were capable of all along.


It's New York City and Times Square beckons. I know that "real New Yorkers" can have a way of disdaining that several square block space as being too full of tourists, too crowded even for a native, too crazy and chaotic - but I like it. It's daytime bright even at night in a somehow more authentic spectacle than its brother, Las Vegas. Now THAT'S "touristy."

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Sex as a Social Currency

Sex is a social currency. It's pleasurable, and it's emotional, which are the criteria we human beings often use to judge the value of something. Has a woman ever asked, "How much do you value me, really?" Remember your first old junker car that you bought for, perhaps, $500? The car transported you from place to place, and that was more than enough to make you value the car highly. You likely told friends that it was worth much more than $500 to you.

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Being Respectful Does Not Mean Tolerating Bullies

I have something to say to you and you likely have felt it before but not had the words for it.

It's time to go back to basics and talk about something we almost never discuss on their lonesome - Personal Boundaries.

Let's begin with a recent news story - one of the many depicting men as "bad," "derelict," "shunning responsibility," "commitment phobic," or any of a number of other words or phrases that amount to none other than bullying.

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Designing Your Life as a Man

Did it ever seem that nobody seemed to care whether you are growing as a man or falling into decline? You're going to have to be the one to design your life...

It's easy to feel as if someone OWES you guidance in being your best.