Attracting Women

Men worry about having enough money, being tall enough, fit enough, hairy enough and strong enough "to be her man." What secretly appeals about your physical look may surprise you...

 Winning at Work

Let me start by saying that I love amateurs. I love being an amateur at ninety-eight of the top one-hundred or so most enjoyable things in life. I wonder where all the amateurs of the world have gone.

 Being of Worth

It's hard to say a dollar is even worth picking up off the sidewalk anymore, but it really is true that only a dollar can change your entire...
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The Secret Science Behind Kissing

Nobody would guess that the prime reward for women the world over who indulge in romance novels and Disney fairy tales (all of them) - is also perhaps the very least talked-about subject among men.

It's no surprise. It's "kissing."

Few men would have the fortitude to discuss the most sought-after romantic reward to the minds of women among themselves, but being in the midst of an official, science-based program for men on attraction and dating gave us that very opportunity.

And wow did it pay off for our students.

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How to Be Socially Viral, Face-to-Face

Some guys no matter how hard they try, just can't get that charisma going, face to face. Instead of doing it from behind a computer...It's not what you think - not "social networks," and nothing to do with the internet. Those aren't your real friends, obviously. They are entertainment, they are marketers (at least of themselves), and at best, acquaintances... until and if - and it's a big IF - you meet them in PERSON.

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I was walking along in Greenwich Village the other night, when something struck me. I had always thought of New York as a city of visual enticement. Everywhere you turn from Times Square to Central Park, there is something compelling to see. It's crowded and noisy though, and once immersed for long enough, you tend to turn inward and seek some privacy through ignoring the very thing that stands out at first about it - the visual panorama of activity.

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How to Be Sloppy and Still Win (With Women Too!)

It's been a long time since I religiously followed a sports team - probably as far back as the Pittsburgh Steelers of my childhood. They were an incredible sight to see, with the most exciting passing game known to man at the time in the form of receivers Lynn Swann and John Stallworth. Well those days have been gone for a long, long time. That is, until I discovered the NY Giants once I moved to New York City.

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Fail-safe Power With Women and Work

Most guys think that "having game" or "just bucking up" will get them all they want in work, women or life. The exact thing you need is mastery of boundaries.
I’ll bring it right out here. It’s the incredible power of your Personal Boundary.
 
We hear people far and wide talk about this immense power in the most vague sense – as in “people need to have boundaries,” “that guy needs to get some boundaries,” or “that woman needs some limits set on her.”
 


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Turning Shame and Rage Into Masculine Power

Take all that embarrassment and shame, all the rage it causes in you, and transform it to masculinity and the powerful rewards within.
You may have heard it before – that “shame and guilt are not the same thing.”
It’s true. Every therapist says so, and might add that guilt is something that is useful and guides you, while shame is something destructive, pervasive and harms your life and your success.
Also all true.
But what good is this knowledge if we don’t have practical applications?

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Women No Longer Admire Men

Maybe you have at some point had a breakup. No, for sure at some point you've had a breakup, whether it's a divorce or simply the end of a string of dates. And leading up to that point you've felt a distance from her, a disrespect certainly or even a disdain.

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