Attracting Women

Know for a scientific fact that "It's on!"

 Winning at Work

Let me start by saying that I love amateurs. I love being an amateur at ninety-eight of the top one-hundred or so most enjoyable things in life. I wonder where all the amateurs of the world have gone.

 Being of Worth

Some men forget the importance of friendship cultivation... which can be livesaving.
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Fortitude as a Masculine Skill

The saying goes, "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger." What exactly does this mean? It seems that what doesn't kill us leaves us alive, and that's a miracle in itself. In the end, it's a statement about character growth, and how easy it is to take a worry and expand it. To turn a bad situation good. To see yourself expand as a man when you've been put through the ringer, and who wouldn't want to come out of a challenging situation even stronger than before?

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Being Respectful Does Not Mean Tolerating Bullies

I have something to say to you and you likely have felt it before but not had the words for it.

It's time to go back to basics and talk about something we almost never discuss on their lonesome - Personal Boundaries.

Let's begin with a recent news story - one of the many depicting men as "bad," "derelict," "shunning responsibility," "commitment phobic," or any of a number of other words or phrases that amount to none other than bullying.

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Turning Shame and Rage Into Masculine Power

Take all that embarrassment and shame, all the rage it causes in you, and transform it to masculinity and the powerful rewards within.
You may have heard it before – that “shame and guilt are not the same thing.”
It’s true. Every therapist says so, and might add that guilt is something that is useful and guides you, while shame is something destructive, pervasive and harms your life and your success.
Also all true.
But what good is this knowledge if we don’t have practical applications?

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Many a man finds himself defensive with a woman when the transition is upon us - the change from casual to committed in love, the choice between a better job and a better woman, and that raise and promotion versus not rocking the boat of friendship with one. Here's how to stop defensiveness in its tracks...

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The Gordian Knot of Your Life

Maybe you are a survivalist and a scrapper in your life, who has always managed to get by some way, somehow. You've done a great deal of work on your life too - no laziness here - but over time, "the squeaky wheel has gotten the grease"... leaving you with numerous connections, habits, resources, and burdens all tied together with each other.

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One of the great things about working for Men's Psychology is that we get to literally "discover" things about behavior on a nearly daily basis - subtleties about women, work, and your worth as a man that will make total sense to you, but that still have always been confusing, or maybe even caused you pain in the past. How can something that seems so insignificant be the cause of so much pain?

Have you ever been in one of these scenarios as a boyfriend or married guy:

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Immediate Respect from Women and Strength at Work

All it is is a simple circle. That's what I started with. After hundreds and hundreds of pages of the psychiatry texts of my training, hardly ever were Personal Boundaries even mentioned. And yet they are the most powerful force (beyond our passions), and one of the only forces that make us HUMAN (as opposed to advanced animals.)

 

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