Attracting Women

Resolve Inner-Conflict by Exploring Options

 Winning at Work

Let me start by saying that I love amateurs. I love being an amateur at ninety-eight of the top one-hundred or so most enjoyable things in life. I wonder where all the amateurs of the world have gone.

 Being of Worth

You always knew there ought to be a name for it - the state of mind suffered only by men, related to women and or work... It robs their passion for...
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Death as a Masculine Power

What does the death of a male mentor mean for your own identity as a man?
The funeral I am driving to, is that of Dr. G. Alec Stewart, a prominent physicist, and Dean of the Honors College where I went to school. In fact, it was his idea to even have an Honors College.
To me, he was THE mentor, benefactor, and advocate.

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Men: Before Getting Married, Read This Book

Watching a favorite TV show (HBO's Entourage), I realized how clueless men have become toward the ugly realities of divorce in America. Nobody gets married expecting to fail, and cheerful optimism is one of the endearing qualities of newly-married couples. But you don't have to be a cynic to see that most men are simply not prepared, mentally and emotionally, to face the cruelty that a woman can unleash on a man when a marriage crashes and burns.

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Turning Shame and Rage Into Masculine Power

Take all that embarrassment and shame, all the rage it causes in you, and transform it to masculinity and the powerful rewards within.
You may have heard it before – that “shame and guilt are not the same thing.”
It’s true. Every therapist says so, and might add that guilt is something that is useful and guides you, while shame is something destructive, pervasive and harms your life and your success.
Also all true.
But what good is this knowledge if we don’t have practical applications?

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A lot has been written in recent years about how to approach women. It seems at some point between 1985 and 1999, men in America and elsewhere completely forgot how to go out on the town with friends, have fun, and meet a few girls along the way. In the last several years, the rules seem to have changed.

Or have they?  Well, not really, if you remember just four simple things when you go out. They're easy to remember and the kinds of things that a wise older brother (or astute parent) might have told you:

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How To Be Confident With Women

I have found that in getting very precise with exactly what a word means contains a great deal of power and practicality.

When we are too vague, as in self-help, there is no reliable, repeatable way to work on a skill. When we are too technical in language, the words become uninspiring, unemotional and not enough to move us into action or change.

Which is why I’ve defined precisely nearly every common word in psychology and self-help for you.

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Fortitude as a Masculine Skill

The saying goes, "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger." What exactly does this mean? It seems that what doesn't kill us leaves us alive, and that's a miracle in itself. In the end, it's a statement about character growth, and how easy it is to take a worry and expand it. To turn a bad situation good. To see yourself expand as a man when you've been put through the ringer, and who wouldn't want to come out of a challenging situation even stronger than before?

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The Only Real Science of Hope and "Optimism"

It's been a real juggernaut of personal growth technology lately for Men's Psychology Magazine, and we've diverted from the pure dating and relationship material for men for a few weeks (maybe we are overcompensating for the high-intensity programs about to happen in Berlin and London in the next few weeks - all about women, meeting them, communicating, body language, reading their behavior, attracting them, dating them, selecting them for fit to your life, deciding on girlfri

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