Attracting Women

They say nothing is wrong, but you know in your heart of hearts what it is already.

 Winning at Work

Let me start by saying that I love amateurs. I love being an amateur at ninety-eight of the top one-hundred or so most enjoyable things in life. I wonder where all the amateurs of the world have gone.

 Being of Worth

As a guy, you spend a lot of your time helping others (or being commanded by others) - in the workplace, at home with a girlfriend or wife. Now is...

I remember a great riddle from when I was in high school - one which was known to reveal those of us with child-like creative wonder (because children always get the answer right long before adults.) It was also an amazing thing to ask a woman on a date, just to see if she too, has a childlike wonderment at the mysteries of the universe.

It goes like this:

"What is greater than God, more evil than the Devil, rich people want it, poor people have it, and if you eat it, you die?"

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The Only Real Science of Hope and "Optimism"

It's been a real juggernaut of personal growth technology lately for Men's Psychology Magazine, and we've diverted from the pure dating and relationship material for men for a few weeks (maybe we are overcompensating for the high-intensity programs about to happen in Berlin and London in the next few weeks - all about women, meeting them, communicating, body language, reading their behavior, attracting them, dating them, selecting them for fit to your life, deciding on girlfri

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Turning Shame and Rage Into Masculine Power

Take all that embarrassment and shame, all the rage it causes in you, and transform it to masculinity and the powerful rewards within.
You may have heard it before – that “shame and guilt are not the same thing.”
It’s true. Every therapist says so, and might add that guilt is something that is useful and guides you, while shame is something destructive, pervasive and harms your life and your success.
Also all true.
But what good is this knowledge if we don’t have practical applications?

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Superhero Advice On Women and Work?

So much in life is confusing, illogical, and senseless."Why did I do that?" Superheroes know why...
So a guy walks into the office one Friday morning and there are security guards there. They just look blankly at him and he knows what it means – he’s been “sacked,” “downsized,” “terminated,” or essentially thrown out on his butt.
He doesn’t know why it happened, and what’s worse, he really doesn’t know what to do with the rest of his month let alone the rest of his day.

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Rising to Power: The New Science of "The Zone"

Men are wired to worry about how they fare against other men. How do we stack up, and where do we fit in to the hierarchy? This ancient reflex makes perfect evolutionary sense. Consider that males, because of their larger body size and muscularity, hunted and killed in primitive times.


It's no surprise that women respond to bad boys. They complain about doing so, try to stop themselves from doing so, ban themselves from dating them and swear they will never do so again... but sometimes to a fault they do so anyway.

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What Is "Masculine Intelligence?"

It's a new skill for today's man. But it has been around since the beginning of time...

We call it Masculine Intelligence®, and we understand if yours is rusty from non-use. These days, men are not encouraged to cultivate it.

Take, for example, the former controversy surrounding the President and Creative Director of J. Crew, Jenna Lyons.