How to Deal With "Sperm Wars"
Hi Dr Paul, Last night I went to a swing dance night where I've met an interested magician woman. She came to ask me dance 2-3 times. The last time, she started to talk with a tall guy passing by while we were dancing. She kept talking and talking even if I was continuing my moves.
The guy was saying he could not be there next week since he had something else.
Then told them they just have to go at another dance place happening a different day and that they could see each other.
Anyway, they kept talking. I did not pay attention to all they said, but I felt disrespected.
Later on this night, when I left I told goodbye to the girl and I already felt that herr interest in me had vanished.
I think I just failed a test.
What would have been the right thing to do in such a situation ?
In Omega Male program you talk about this kind of test where a woman gives you a competition to winagainst another man, but you do not say how to pass such a test.
I hate that so much !
Later when I've quit, I told her that I go to this place only once every 3 month in average and that I go more often to another place.
It seems I have all screwed-up my chances.
Please help needed there !
Even if you are not a coach, you are welcome to give your point of view on this. It is a real hot topic for me.
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Solid Answer:
She can't be accountable for her reptilian brain, but I suppose it also makes her either rude too, or un-in-touch with her own instinct. Not a good woman to be with.
Sperm Warring is the woman putting you to a competition with other men, so I understand other guys saying you weren't, because this guy was just an idiot, but his lack of common courtesy combined with her unconscious reptilian brain led to a nasty experience for you. Don't stay in that situation again.
It would have been entirely justified to just leave the premises and never talk to her again frankly.
The man was RUDE.
What do you say to such a person? Focus got it right.
Why "exclude" the woman? Because it wasn't "her fault." The fault was with the brazen rudeness of the man. So it's you and him.
Secondly, when you EXCLUDE a woman, that is also an attractor because a.) their reptilian brain is in part driven by the need to be INCLUDED and b.) because it shows boundaries, and really wasn't her business. The man was, again, RUDE, and needs to learn a lesson in common courtesy.
Next time, don't involve the woman. Say to the guy, "Hey, what IS YOUR PROBLEM?"
And if there's no response, or an unintelligible one, "Pardon this question. (pause, then LOUD but intentional and sarcastic) WERE YOU RAISED IN A BARN?"
My grandparents said that phrase and I love it.
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