I Can't Find a "Magician Personality" Woman Who Doesn't Smoke!

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Submitted by Paul Dobransky MD on Wed, 03/28/2012 - 13:16
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Urgent Question:

Hey Dr. Paul! 

I'm Totally Loving, & Having a Blast With Your Phenomenal Teachings!!!

Here's a question that's bothered me for years about people in general, and now in the last year of studying your teachings... In personality, I'm challenged with Magician Women specifically!  LOL!

Perhaps I'm too King like, and literally have made the hunt for the perfect Magician Temperament Female, into an academic pursuit, with a mathematical like precision..

Here's what I've noticed = many of the mysterious, hot, totally sexy, magician temperament females tend to be smokers, or they really like their social activities with their alcohol,... and I also notice that an average amount of experience with recreational pharmaceuticals & herbal enhancements of the non-legal variety, seems to run rampant is this group of people (plus they seem to attract and hang around those extra lazy / more winey versions of Lover Temperaments, who are always needing to get drunk + high on weekends to escape their drudgerously structured, weekday, corporate lives). Please note:  That last statement is not meant as an attack on all Lover Temperamented individuals, only the extra lazy, more winey one's who are always getting stoned and complaining about the world)  :-)

I am aware of having a label in my own mind, of finding this need of alcohol, or smoking, or drugs (or all 3 combined) to be synonymous with "people who lack good character, have low self esteem, and are generally not reliable / cannot produce effective results long term, and are generally a let down to the cycle of life (shit, that is a strong program I've got running there eh?) :-) and = I often write them off as "a waste of skin" (terminology from my military days, which I know is also a program).

I know that maturity & awareness + observing ego can allow us to be more accepting of others... and yet I find these vices to be a major turn-off's and even total repulsions 

I am aware that my thoughts & methods can sound elitist to some,.. but what can I say.... I've seen many things, been many places, and had some very unique experiences in life, business, love...

I am aware that much of my striving and over achieving may have been "false-self" and attention seeking to get validation from my father (tyrannical military officer & heavy-handed enforcer at home) + validate myself to the world, as believe it or not I often lacked confidence in doing all of those things...

Can it be that having been so varied & all over the map has actually created a greater challenge for me in being able to just be with myself & others????

If Magician is my best Opposite Complimentary Temperament, how do I find one who isn't a smoker / doesn't need to be tipsy 2 or 3 days per week / and does not require alkaloid enhancement to enjoy life?!?

OR, how would I learn over come this challenge (that is obviously my own labelling and thought process about these activities),... because as of yet, I have not met a Magician Female who does not partake in at least 2 of those vices...
But I just can't believe I would have to learn to adjust to accept all those nasty habits that are so prevalent in that personality temperament..... (from my current viewpoint and level of experience, that is).

Any thoughts & comments would be greatly appreciated, deeply contemplated, and tested to the fullest to gather personal learning data!!  :-)

Thanks Dr. Paul + Et al. You All Rock!!  :-)

 

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Solid Answer:
The quick answer would be that all Magicians have a right brained, confident ability at trying "novelties" or what's new, what others haven't.

But when taken too far, or too much lack of observing ego, patience and boundaries on the SELF ( e g self discipline or saying no to self with boundaries) it goes into thrill seeking and risk seeking and addictive potential.  

So the KWML is good at personalities and style of a person, but you want to be toward the center of the circle and have her be ( where maturity lies).

So not all magicians are of this level - mature - an maybe more challenged than many (because of the right brained tendency to shun "attention" needed for observing ego, in favor of creative spontaneity)

We need boundaries too - see MindOS Mastery and Masculine Intelligence in Personal Boundaries both at http://www.menspsychology.com/catalog

Practical tip to use - go to more "mature environments" where more mature people are and look for magicians - not bars so much. Think places that require codes of conduct, like formal events, yet magiciany events like serious actors  meetings or award ceremonies and performances, ballet, opera, charity events, nice restaurants not dives, outdoor clubs that take stamina and practice like skiing competitions.

Get it?

Everything about career and boundaries between it and women is highlighted in Mature Masculine Power at:

http://www.menspsychology.com/courses/miman

and all of human courtship is in the Omega Male Program at:

http://www.menspsychology.com/courses/miwomen

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