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I Fear Public Speeches
Hi Dr Paul,I am very excited to have an opportunity to work. After spending most of the past year looking for work and going back to school I have landed a temp job that will be evaluated at the end of next week. I tend to use filler speech when I'm thinking of a response to a question, unless I happen to be extremely familiar with what a person is asking. It was brought to my attention from the recruiter who setup the interview that when she spoke to me on the phone, I used much more filler speech than when I was in person talking with her. She saw it as a potential red flag to her client being that I will spend much of my day of the phone. Certainly nerves were a factor. The person I will be reporting to did appear to be impressed with how I presented myself but I will still have to earn that permanent job offer.
Since I only have one week to make my mark, I don't expect dramatic overnight results but know that I can and will improve. Does anyone have any practical suggestions for improving in this area? Specifically, the filler words tend to be: uh, um, you know, ah, basically and actually. The job I have is customer service oriented so I will have many opportunities to improve my communication skills. Looking forward to receiving feedback from you guys!
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From Danny on our forums:
You have a lack of confidence in speech , which comes from 2 reasons :
1.) Lack of skill
2.) Lack of composure
The skill part will only come with time.
Composure, however, not to use filler speech until you are more comfortable with your speaking abilities , you can develop..
In your place I would have a look into meditation techniques and possibly yoga , anything that can get you focused in your body and not in your anxieties.
Maybe even Mui Thai ... but I'm kinda biased on that one
And from ArtMuse on our forums:
You might consider looking up ToastMasters in your area.
There, you would have the opportunity to practice speaking publicly, and preparing and presenting your talks.
A good way to practice eliminating filler words from your speech is to practice in person with people you know:
Choose a topic.
Write down what you want to say, including a short explanation,
then add an action,
and a benefit,
to the information you provide.
Organize your thoughts so that you can deliver all of this in 2 minutes or less.
Practice telling it, in this format, to yourself in the mirror, and friends and family who you can recruit to help.
If you've experienced it, you've earned the right to talk about it, so it's simply a matter of trimming the excess.
Having a format helps you process the information for clearer delivery to your intended audience.
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