The "Science of Flirting"

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I've never really understood what flirting is even when I've done it in the past. So I want to figure out what the scientific definition of flirting. There are not really any clear definitions (at least to me) on the web and that is why I want to bring it here...

Web Definitions...

Behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions
" it amused him to flirt with her"

Experiment with or show a superficial interest in (an idea, activity, or movement) without committing oneself to it seriously
" a painter who had flirted briefly with Cubism"

Deliberately expose oneself to (danger or difficulty)
" the need of some individuals to flirt with death"

Since the forums here are better at making things in words more practical than other places. Can you define what flirting is?

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Solid Answer:
Let me summarize...

We don't see it as foolish, silly or frivolous. That might be more in line with a feminist view, since it does matter to males immediately (a high value to them, reproductively) and to women, had better eventually matter in a serious way if they ever want a good relationship.

But it might also be called frivolous by the dictionary since it DOES involve PLAY, and is not supposed to be "serious" or "weighty." It's supposed to be fun.

I'd say that it's "sexual attraction" imbued by mystery, intrigue, ambiguity and uncertainty, in a spirit of fun, creativity and play, and affording a chance to fantasize, project our ideal mate on another, and what the psychologists call "limerance."

It's vaguely, playfully interacting with a relative stranger with romantic or sexual intentions. Which is different from the actual sex act. SO it's about the creative mind, the romantic imagination and sexual fantasy.

Everything about career and boundaries between it and women is highlighted in Mature Masculine Power at:

and all of human courtship is in the Omega Male Program at:

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