Hi Dr Paul

Hey Dr. Paul I’ve been familiar with your materials for about 6-7 years now and have had many great successes. However, I just wanted to share something about going out alone.

Last night I went to a street festival and was planning up on meeting up with a couple friends. However, while I was waiting for them I decided to put the phone down, stop texting, and start talking to people around me. Right away I see this tall blonde coming by double fisting a beer and a shot of tequila, without hesitation I make a comment and find out she is with four other girls. I believe I reasonably have their KWML types pegged.
I know I’ll get back to them later, so I leave them for now. Meanwhile I randomly run into another friend while waiting in line to use the facilities. After I get back about 10 minutes later I reconnect with the tall blonde and we grab a table along with one of her other friends. I am not focusing on the blonde right now, but the other friend so my intentions aren’t obvious.
A couple minutes later all their other friends including a dude are sitting at my table, and I’m holding court! It gets better, the blonde starts buying me drinks. They decide to move outside and sit al fresco and invite me to come along.
I tell them I’ll be out soon because I want to talk to my friend Kenny and talk to this other girl.

Up next to the bar is a girl who looks like Minnie Driver, now using some Observing Ego I know if I go up there and say, “you know you look like Minnie Driver,” that I’m obviously not going to get anywhere. It just so happens I look like someone famous as well.
So while her friend left to use the bathroom I roll up and tell her, “I’ve got to ask you a question. I know you that you know you look like someone famous, but so do I. You guess first, who do I look like?” We hit it off right away, and when her friend returned all was well because I had already introduced myself to her earlier.
So I tell a few jokes to Minnie and her friend, I get “Minnie’s” phone number and leave on a high note. On my way out to the sidewalk to rejoin the group of five gals I randomly run into another friend I haven’t seen in over a year.
By this point I have so much positive energy with me I feel unstoppable.

I rejoin the tall blonde and her friends and even though I’m sitting next to the blonde I’m still focusing on her friends - they have to like me or all is lost.
This whole time I’ve been using touch, reading body language, using OE, and mystery. None of them know what I do for a living, but I know what they do. The move from the inside to the outside was crucial because it was almost like a second mini-date.
I kept them guessing what I was doing while I was away flirting with Minnie inside the bar. Guess what happens next, the blonde buys me another beer. We all decide to leave this place and go to another bar around the corner – mini-date three.

While at the next bar with these girls I run into a girl I had dated a couple months ago, things just fizzled out between us, so I decide to say stop by and say “hi.” I don’t know what the blonde is thinking at this point, but I know it’s probably working in my favor and I’m just having a great ole time regardless.
When the evening started I was all by myself texting and being rather anti-social while waiting for a couple friends who weren’t able to meet up in the end. I put the damn phone away, randomly ran into two other friends, got “Minnie Driver’s” phone number, the blonde bought me drinks and gave me her number.
All in all a pretty successful night that was completely spontaneous. Oh and by the way the blonde is already texting me today, the day after we met!

It sounds more like a field report and I feel like I’m 25 again.

Thank you,
Zander J.,
Chicago, IL

ANSWER:
Wow, congratulations on a job well done! I remember you as having both the Omega, but eventually taking a bootcamp with us. Let’s deconstruct this success together.
You mention Observing Ego, THE core skill of personal growth I talk about in both the MindOS Mastery Program for men (on your general personal growth) as well as in the Omega Male Program on women, attraction and dating. In fact, in the latter, I go so far as to say this skill is none other than the actual scientific definition of “cool,” or “coolness.”
Would you then believe that you started out the night in the perfect place? With “Coolness?” Yes. In fact, one great – no, immense – advantage to going out alone is that it very much encourages this skill to grow – Observing Ego, the ability to assess yourself and the environment for matching behavior, and then to adjust under your own coaching to yourself.
In fact, you might say that having great Observing Ego is like “running your own bootcamp for yourself,” 24/7!
You used it to snap yourself out of autistic texting mode and into the social arena.
MindOS is at:
==> http://www.doctorpaul.net/mindos
And the Omega Male Program is at:
==> http://www.doctorpaul.net/omega-male-program
Next, you made a concerted effort to be “Mr. Friendly.” This serves you well generally for your performance with both ingratiating yourself to women, as well as to potentially competing males. For those males who would see you as a threat if you had a serious demeanor, scoping out the ladies, it pegs you as “harmless,” or even “naïve.” For the women, it helps to automatically pass a bar, allowing them to soften the inherent feminine sense of “dangerous strangers” and “loners,” to instead see you as a potential friend.
This is a second reason that being friendly is important, and knowing you, you weren’t FAKE about it, like following some recipe. You were genuinely friendly, which is an actual “fitness indicator” of emotional health picked up by the unconscious minds of women. It means that if, a.) you are friendly, and b.) unhappy people can’t be friendly, c.) happy people have high self-esteem, and d.) high self-esteem men offer durable partnership, fun, sexiness, and make fit fathers, then d.) IT’S ON, with YOU.
Excellent.
You further did some things that will be reminiscent of some of the “dating guru” material out there on the internet – techniques of showing how many people you know, and of talking to the less attractive woman (or one you are less interested in since beauty is in the eye of the beholder), as a way of encouraging or influencing the one you desire, to like you back.
There’s no voodoo to this, as I describe for you in the Omega. All these techniques represent the very first step of Sexual Attraction that science actually supports – being “mysterious” – having cause for women to wonder about you, enquire about you, question who you are and what makes you tick. You did this just great, not following some “guru’s advice,” but finding your own individual way as a man for giving women something to want to know more about. Top it off with some jokes for more fun and humor, and you have taken the arousal state of “being a guy out alone” that unconsciously implies “danger” or “exclusion” to women, and instead making that “arousal” tip toward the sexual.
Bravo.
You inspire me to offer something to guys like you who have taken our bootcamps or WANT to:
I’ll tell you what. If you have ever wanted to take this bootcamp and haven’t, when you sign up for the Los Angeles bootcamp Aug 20-22 at:
==> http://www.doctorpaul.net/bootcamps,
…I’ll send you the Omega for FREE. In fact, I’ll send it RIGHT AWAY so that you can get studying and prepped for the event.
And if you already HAVE the Omega Male Program, I will discount your bootcamp in LA only, by the amount you paid for the Omega.
Simply write me at paul@menspsychology.com and cc: marek@menspsychology.com.