Hey what are your thoughts on this?

http://www.facebook.com/pages/National-Mens-Abstinence-Month/145046725568388?sk=wall

I think it would be a fantastic campaign.

We're off women. A month were men get left alone, stop bothering with women/ignore them, to get together, go solve problems in their communities and spend time on their missions.

Mission Month.

Wait, is it men off women or women off men?!

Actually that would be a great line to a woman you just met.

"Ok look, I'll take you on a great date but I have to warn you it's Men's Abstinence Month so there's going to be no sex for the next 30 days - OK?!"

"What's Men's Abstinence Month?!"...etc

It kind of hurts to have women collectively decide something like that, I guess it shows where they have power over us.

But as long as its NOT international thats fine, I can't imagine european women going for this.

I mentioned it to the girls at work and they were'nt interested in signing up, one of them said "NO WAY its my birthday in june".

I told them the story of lysistrata, which went down really well.

At the time of posting only 7 people have joined, keep your fingers crossed it stays that way.

EDIT: just read the info and realised its the other way around, just shows how unlikely I think abstinence for men is.

30 days without sex, on purpose, during a summer month in London Hmmm

Wouldn't be more effective to have june be a month of no proposals of marriage by men, or does this then become something else?

To be honest seems a bit forced..what is a guy supposed to do who is locked into child support/alimony after divorce? Tell the court Dr Paul is giving us a free pass?

Most mature men (and women for that matter!) have commitments-- great idea for guys who single and care free!!

The important point is to follow your mission and get together with guys to celebrate being guys--rarely honred now and often riduclued. Podcasts are great but the sounds quality is poor lots of popping sounds on mine

You're welcome.

We're just getting started for the first time on podcasts, so bear with that first episode. Podcasts are free, and there is a certain standard for them in the community. But here is the latest, and I don't detect any pops:

http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mens-psychology/id437105485

There are certainly no pops in our products. They are produced and edited by a former producer from MTV and award-winning documentary filmmaker.

This membership is now only 17$ a month, and you can talk to me personally, live, on the every-tuesday teleseminars too. Go to Teleseminar Discussion Forum, and check the schedule.

Why NMAM?

It's NOT just for single men. It's for ALL men, and I didn't say it was as easy as sitting on the couch eating chee-tos.

Yes, for a man in a relationship, it would take courage to say, "This is something I am going to do to learn about myself, and discover how my energy can get put into pure career-building. You're my woman. Have you ever been on a diet and found it a challenging growth experience? Yes? Thank you. This is EXACTLY the same thing, and just think how crazy we'll be to get in bed when the month is done?"

For the single man OR married man, they are going to discover what they have true power over. The married man will discover how beholden and controlled by his wife he is if she is wrong for him, how supported by and attractive to her he is if she is RIGHT for him, and for the single man (or divorced, exed, alimonied - none of that is relevant to this exercise) he will find that whether successful or challenged he is with women, the successful will be even more a challenge to the WOMAN, and the guy with difficulty will discover empowerment because he TRULY CONTROLS his body, his time, his energy and money, and while women of various backgrounds may or may not be a match for him, his CAREER is entirely his to steer and control.

That's why this can be useful, and there is a FULL ARTICLE ALL ABOUT THE RATIONALE, HERE.

Many women will love this, and if you want a dramatic example, see the episode of the six-season box set of Sex and the City, where Samantha is crazy for the male yoga instructor who is on a similar temporary vow of abstinence. She is a sex pot and his actual abstinence, the confidence, discipline, and CHALLENGE of him, are utterly irresistible to her.

If you don't like the idea, don't do it by all means.

But it's based in sound psychology as a learning experience to be journaled in your journal - for those who would like something new and different to learn...

To Fan the event, go HERE.

A clarification about alimony as spent resources. Of course that's the law and you need to abide by it. This NMAM as an event doesn't work magic on the past or choices you've made in who to commit to long ago. Of course. Nor does it promise that.

But do you now also get attracted to NEW women, spend time, energy, money, labor, interest, attention on NEW women you do not owe alimony to?

If you never focus on new women to date, meet, think about or spend your resources on - which you DO control, as opposed to PAST choices with legal ramifications you DON'T control now - then you are already "abstaining" from directing any resources at women that are still discretionary and in your control. So you are already doing the event.

If any of the above makes sense, then the event remains an opportunity to squeeze even MORE growth, insight and masculinizing effort on your part, to direct it back to yourself.

Which might perhaps leave you feeling more empowered about having obligations such as alimony in your life, and functioning even better under such an unfair societal challenge.

Will be interesting to see how is goes.
How will you define it to be a success?
Any way of measuring it?
Would be more productive to have an event to help guys stuggling in this tough job market...networking month for guys to find jobs??
It appears from the Facebook page to appeal to men already abstaining!!
One of the appeals of Lysistrata is that it seems to me that its is something women would do because sex is in their "power"where commitment is in mens' power(as Dr Paul often says). They use sex because it is the only "weapon" as oppose to men's many powers in anicent times.

True. The read most people will have is that they are abstaining from SEX, when what is really implied is abstaining from GIVING RESOURCES (where not compulsory by the law, as in alimony)...

It's a unique thing in that light.

Networking encouraged both on FB and here. In fact, we need to develop out the "networking by city" forum...

Success would be if a guy goes the whole month and learns something insightful about how he has been spending psych resources poorly or wisely, OR just as much so if a guy fails to abstain, but learns something about his endurance on his own behalf, and what pressures he lives under from women, and from his own drives and desires.

Both are successful learning...

Paul Dr. Paul MD wrote:Why NMAM?

It's NOT just for single men. It's for ALL men, and I didn't say it was as easy as sitting on the couch eating chee-tos.

Yes, for a man in a relationship, it would take courage to say, "This is something I am going to do to learn about myself, and discover how my energy can get put into pure career-building. You're my woman. Have you ever been on a diet and found it a challenging growth experience? Yes? Thank you. This is EXACTLY the same thing, and just think how crazy we'll be to get in bed when the month is done?"

For the single man OR married man, they are going to discover what they have true power over. The married man will discover how beholden and controlled by his wife he is if she is wrong for him, how supported by and attractive to her he is if she is RIGHT for him, and for the single man (or divorced, exed, alimonied - none of that is relevant to this exercise) he will find that whether successful or challenged he is with women, the successful will be even more a challenge to the WOMAN, and the guy with difficulty will discover empowerment because he TRULY CONTROLS his body, his time, his energy and money, and while women of various backgrounds may or may not be a match for him, his CAREER is entirely his to steer and control.

That's why this can be useful, and there is a FULL ARTICLE ALL ABOUT THE RATIONALE, HERE.

Many women will love this, and if you want a dramatic example, see the episode of the six-season box set of Sex and the City, where Samantha is crazy for the male yoga instructor who is on a similar temporary vow of abstinence. She is a sex pot and his actual abstinence, the confidence, discipline, and CHALLENGE of him, are utterly irresistible to her.

If you don't like the idea, don't do it by all means.

But it's based in sound psychology as a learning experience to be journaled in your journal - for those who would like something new and different to learn...

To Fan the event, go HERE.

I get it now, and I am with youguys.

I got to admit I feel myself cringing at the thought of being absolutely vigilant with my resources to all women for 1 month.

I guess that just shows how much I need to do it, in my situation I am pretty much surrounded by women 24/7 as I live in a mixed house share, my boss is female my equal is female and I have an entire female team below me.

Oh yes and my social life is largely women aswell. (largely, NOT large)

Tough times and lots of learning ahead, Good luck guys.

Still seems to be force like Charlie Sheen's "Winning"
Will be interesting to see guys post their specific plans--haven't seen one yet!!
Who willl be first??

I am so on board.

July I will make up for it, that I know. I just had a women that I thought was long term and I got dumped. A month will give me time to make a plan.

Tony Sparrow

I think this is a really cool idea, I'm going to give it a shot

My only feedback on the facebook page, is that I personally found the picture confusing because it is the man that is crossed out, so at a glance - it looks like women are saying no to men, rather than men saying no to women.

This is an awesome idea though! Love it.