First off while this is not a medical site, be it known that bipolar can easily be mimicked by various things from substance abuse, to PTSD, to the need to mature and grow up with better boundaries and Observing Ego, to ADD.
The list goes on, which is also why it is interesting the things you talk about many men without bipolar also face.
See it this way - regardless of what you or THEY call your behavior, you are male, and a MAN, and that means many things that have nothing to do with a diagnosis.
One of the great things about MindOS is that it is "phenomenological." That means that it explains what you see on the surface of peoples' behavior in a way that is "predictive" like an engineer "predicts" what will be a good design for a bridge, or when a bridge will fall, or how long the fuselage of a plane will last before it needs to be replaced. It's "what you see happening."
So when a guy is appealing to women, at the core, he is showing MASCULINE traits unconsciously, and those are picked up by the woman's unconscious. He is showing CONFIDENCE emotionally, and the woman feels happier and safer around that - so she feels friendship for you and love. And when you have good boundaries and Observing Ego the woman feels that you are trustworthy and able to keep your word, able to protect her and bond intellectually as a team to solve problems together - absolute requirements of a commitment along with communication, collaboration and compromise ability.
These are the three phases of courtship in the Omega Male Program at: http://www.menspsychology.com/courses/miwomen
When we are talking about the reaction of males to you, it simply takes the romantic connection out of the picture and what is left is still friendship and interest in being on the same TEAM as you - the reptilian aspect would simply cause other men to FOLLOW you or feel BROTHERHOOD with you as opposed obviously to romantic interest. So the same brain circuitry is involved and working but to different ends.
Men's instincts and masculinity are fully covered in the Mature Masculine Power Program at: Http://www.menspsychology.com/courses/miman
These ideas work ALONGSIDE any standard diagnosis or treatment that you get.
So what you are revealing is that you have to work on the focus ability that goes along with Observing Ego and the discipline and dependability that go along with having good BOUNDARIES. You can learn these two regardless of whatever diagnosis you have, although the ability to focus is often affected by a major disorder that is uncontrolled or unmedicated.
So some thoughts there...